“Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. Love is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” -Ann Landers
An intimate relationship is actually an interpersonal relationship that involves physical and emotional intimacy. Intimate relationships play a central role in human experience as humans have a desire to belong, to love and be loved. All of this can be satisfied within an intimate relationship. Emotional intimacy is an aspect of interpersonal relationships which involves a perception of closeness and allowing us to share our personal feelings, expectations, dreams, etc. Emotional intimacy can be expressed in verbal and non-verbal communication.
Trust is one of the most desired qualities in any close intimate relationship. Modern living not only changed the view of the world, but also changed the traditional roles of the family, marriage, work commitments, and self-actualization in a huge part of the population. As education and work have a great importance in people’s lives, marriage (or long relationship) is an institution in which we spend most of our lives, as well as an institution in which we share finances together to develop and accomplish further social contacts and exploit their capacities, developing our self-esteem and self-respect for coexistence and conflict resolution.
Since childhood, we wish to have a great love, a happy marriage, and children. These of our desires are possible in the period of early adulthood when we reach the top of intimacy.
Tips for increasing emotional intimacy between partners
Know the difference between Physical and Emotional Intimacy
The first tip for increasing the emotional intimacy between you and your partner is to learn what it is. Yes, physical intimacy can help you to increase and lead to emotional intimacy, but remember, these two are not the same thing. If you are disconnected from your partner because of a distant relationship, work trip etc when there is no emotional intimacy, the physical intimacy will likely be less satisfying and it will come to an end of the relationship. Physical intimacy is NO GUARANTEE of greater emotional intimacy.
Maybe the best thing you can do to increase the emotional intimacy is to be yourself and just act normal. Go with the flow and believe in yourself.
There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.
– George Sand
Laugh and Cry Together
Have fun and laugh at your jokes. To increase intimacy, you have to be positive and have fun together. Humor and jokes are magic peals for a happy relationship. But don’t forget to cry together. Maybe you still don’t feel comfortable to cry in front of your partner but believe me, this is the step that will bring you to the emotional intimacy. This is one way of showing your deep emotions, and your partner would love to help you or just listen to you and support you through a hard time.
Accept yourself and your partner
Emotional intimacy will develop through frustrations, disagreement, and willing to accept another person just as they are. Disagreements are healthy and very normal in a relationship. This way you are changing, making a compromise, growing as a person yourself and with your partner. If there are no conflicts then something is wrong. Where there is frustration there is growth. Remember that. It is very important to accept your partner and his feelings. Opposite viewpoint means you are being honest about who you are, but remember to follow one rule:
Don’t insult or blame your partner!
Give your relationship time
Emotional intimacy is something that needs time to develop. You have to make sure to spend more time alone together with your partner when you can talk or just be in each other’s company in complete silence.
Last but not least is to share with your partner. This doesn’t mean to share only your experiences, but also to share your feelings, time and future plans. Also, share your finances because this way you are putting a seal on the connection and you not only improve the emotional intimacy, but you improve the stability of the relationship too.
Keep practicing these tips to improve the emotional intimacy in your relationship.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”