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I don’t know what kind of situation you are facing with this period in your life, but I’m sure that with whatever you face you need motivation. Motivation is significant, from birth to death.

A child when is learning to walk needs a stimulus, motivation to reach something he wants. It’s the same with almost all things in life. In order to succeed, we need motivation. I still remember one of my favorite motivational speakers talking about motivation, and shared as himself, although he is a motivational speaker, he listens to motivational videos, reads a lot of books, and continually searches for new ways to motivate himself.

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At this point in my life, I face a challenge that is very unknown to me. I am aware of how much this challenge is good for me, I’m continually learning, and I’m trying to succeed, but something I really need to succeed and continue to work (without external stimulus or reward) is motivation.

That’s why I try to write and read more about this topic, and also share with you everything that helps me.

One way to raise motivation is to watch more motivational videos or listen to motivational speakers. In this post, I want to share with you famous TED Talks for motivation.

I got two conclusions. The first is that when the video (or the blog post, whatever) has a good headline that indicates the purpose of the video, it is much more likely that I will open and listen. The second thing I realized is that if there is a good description that only suggests the purpose of the video, the chances to open it are even higher. But, if the description is extensive and publishes the steps towards the goal, I have already received what I want and the chances to open the video are decreased.

I listened to all the videos. I can not really tell in a few sentences what their purpose is, but what I want to convey to you is to reach yourself without knowing what it is about.

You will be surprised, wealthier for a lot of information, you will find out many things that you did not know, or you forgot, and you will be much more motivated to achieve your own goal.

All videos are equally important, and what’s important is that if you want to motivate yourself, you have to take the first step. If you have not read it, I recommend that you first find out why motivation is so essential for success and happiness in life, and also if you are a book reader to choose one of these motivational books.

I want to share with you famous TED Talks for motivation. These videos are life-changing, motivational and very informative.

The Best Motivational Books To Read Right Now

The puzzle of motivation | Dan Pink

Why we do what we do|Tony Robins

Keep your goals to yourself |Derek Sivers

Why some people find exercise harder than others | Emily Balcetis

The Happy secret to better work | Shawn Achor

The psychology of self-motivation | Scott Geller

How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins

How to achieve your most ambitious goals | Stephen Duneier

How great leaders inspire action | Simon Sinek

Try something new for 30 days | Matt Cutts

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I want to share with you famous TED Talks for motivation. These videos are life-changing, motivational and very informative.

Do you want to motivate yourself? Do you have a goal that you want to fulfill but something is missing? Very often, what is lacking is motivation, and there is no better way to increase motivation from reading good and instructive books.

I devote April on motivation because I really need it a lot. Yes, I confess. I have to find a way to motivate myself more because I have set a huge goal this year, and it seems like I’m not doing anything about it. I am giving my best, but gradually my motivation falls, and therefore I am not that productive.

In the previous post, I wrote about what motivation is and how to raise it. You can check that post here. Now I want to share great motivational books with you that I think will be useful to you for many other things. My goal to read at least two books a month goes well this year, and I’m pleased that I succeed in that.

The most important thing I learned from this journey is that every book is motivational. But, why some of them are more and some less?

If you have to choose a few books that really motivated you – which books would you choose?

Motivation aligns you to work towards your goals.
Increase energy levels
Helps you to set priorities
Increases your commitment
Boost productivity
Helps you to change your bad habits

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Here is my choice of motivational books that will change your life perspective and are a MUST for everyone on a personal development journey

7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, by Stephen R. Covey

This is a very popular book and there is a good reason for that. This is a motivational book that you will really like. The 7 habits Covey writes about are:

Be Proactive;
Begin With The End In Mind;
Put First Things First;
Think Win-Win;
Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood;
Synergize;
Sharpen The Saw.

If you are interested in self-help books and learn how to be effective and more successful, this book is a great choice for you.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, by Stephen R. Covey

How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, by John C. Maxwell

This was the first book on my TO READ list for this year and I am very glad because this book is responsible for my motivation to read at least two books every month. For me, this is very motivational book and it gives you guide how to think to be happier, more successful and live a better life.

How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, by John C. Maxwell

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero

If you worry too much about what others think about you, and if you want to figure it out what you really want in your life, You Are a Badass is a great motivational book for you. It is time for you to decide to STOP caring what others think! Learn how to change your surrounding and live the life you deserve.

 You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero

Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny, by Tony Robbins

I couldn’t decide which book from Tony Robbins to choose, but I think that this is a great choice if you are on a personal development journey, want to know your purpose, and ready to take control of your whole life. EVERY book from Anthony Robbins is a motivational book – he is simply the best.

Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny, by Tony Robbins


The 5 Second Rule, by Mel Robbins

I have to admit that this book was a little boring for me. But I read a lot, and most of the things in this book I knew because I love Mel Robbins and follow her YouTube channel. This is a great motivational book especially if you are already aware that you are in charge! Support is very important, but the most important thing in life is knowing how to push yourself. So if you want to stop procrastinating – this is the perfect match.

The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill

I love old books especially when they become a classic and are very popular decades after. Hill explains in this book how very few people know what their life goal is and the others are trapped in jobs that make them unhappy. The author shares a few strategies in order to upgrade your life.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho

This is one of my favorite books of all times, and also the first book that taught me how to live. No, I didn’t understand the whole book the first time. I was 12 years old and didn’t have a clue about life. But 10 years later, this book opened my eyes. Paulo Coehlo is my favorite author and I love all of his books. Why is The Alchemist a motivational book? This book is full of inspirational wisdom. It is not a self-help book, this is a novel. But a very educative novel about the life purpose, love and passion. Also, this is the book I plan to give my son when he is 12 years old too.

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Paulo Coelho Life Quotes
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You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay

This is not the first time I recommend Louise Hay. But she “healed” my life and I am very grateful. I couldn’t decide which book from her is the most motivational book, but I decided to share with you this one. Isn’t the title motivational enough? Louise Hay is a wonderful woman. This book is a self-help bestseller, and there is a good reason for that. There is also a documentary film about this book. I hate to write book reviews because everyone has a different perspective. One thing I know for sure, this book will motivate you and will help you to heal your life. Psychosomatic illnesses are the reason I became a psychologist, and this book motivated me to do that. If it wasn’t this book maybe I wouldn’t be what I am today.

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

Rich Dad Poor Dad, by Robert Kiyosaki

I gave this book to my father for his 65th birthday, and guess what? He was so motivated that he decided to open a business and to travel the world. Oh, and he also helped me to start a business. 😛
Great present, yes? I wondered why this book was so motivational for him. This book advocates the importance of financial education, and the author shares excellent tips for investing. It was a New York Times Bestseller and it is still very trendy.

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

As I said at the starting, all books are motivational books. When I think about it, all the books I liked motivated me to become a better person.

I’m currently reading a book for raising a child. I did not put it in this list, but the book truly motivates me to be calmer, to try to listen to my child, but also to learn how to communicate with him.

I hope you like this type of posts, and I’ll soon share more books with you.

Stay Positive!

Here is my choice of motivational books that will change your life perspective and are a MUST for everyone on a personal development journey

For a whole week, I can not write a new post, so, I sat down and thought about how to motivate me to write. When I’m motivated, I am able to write for a few hours a whole new post, and when I do not feel well, I need a full week and even more.

It is especially difficult for me because English is not my mother language, so I have to think much more than usual. I have written dozens of topics that I want to write a post about, and from all of them, I could not decide ​​for anyone.

Why is that? I love this. I like to write and share my thoughts and words with you. What if this passion is not enough for me? In fact, I finally realize that if you want something very hard, it does not mean that you will be driven to do it consistently. However, there are also some other factors that are responsible for motivation to encourage you to do what you are doing.

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Motivation comes from the word motive - a need to meet a particular goal. Do you know why motivation is important for your success and well being?

First, I have to mention fatigue that is one of the biggest culprits for losing motivation. Second, the goal. What happens when the goal is changed, when it seems unattainable, or just life has become too busy, and the primary goal is delayed and is no longer a priority? Thirdly – all external factors affecting motivation. Fourthly, apart from the passion for what you do, there are hundreds of other internal factors that can affect it.

How will I feel when I write this post? Probably nice and proud. Yes, proud! It’s my product that requires dedication, learning, time and much thinking. It’s not perfect, I’m sure it’s got a lot of mistakes, but it’s sincere and heartfelt.

And the goal? The purpose of this post is to help the one who reads it to understand better what motivation is and how important it is for his/her success.

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What is motivation?

Motivation comes from the word motive – a need to meet a particular goal. I will not write the psychological theories about motivation, because there are many and I believe that they are confusing.

That is, I will not achieve my goal if this text has no end and I focus on different aspects of the motivation, theories and millions point of views of various scientists. Of course, nobody is using all these theories, and one is definitely the most widespread and straightforward. We are all motivated by internal or external factors – Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

The best example to explain the inner motivation is your hobby. Hobbies are something you do for motives that are internal and have no backing from outside. The inner urge is powerful and is commonly present in good students, athletes, and successful people.

It has been proven that those who are internally motivated are much more successful than the others. Why? Because they are driven by their inner motives, they do not shift the blame to others, they do not wait for someone to reward them and applaud them for the excellent work done, nor rely on others’ desires, needs, and opinions. They take responsibility in their own hands. In summary – they are self – determined.

External motivation comes from external factors. This topic is most often associated with motivating employees. It is related to a reward, recognition, money, but also a penalty and a reduction in monetary compensation.

Now, motivating the employees is a very deliberate topic because if external motivation does not apply well (i.e., the employee’s needs are not well understood), it can act demotivating for them. That would be when, for example, you increase the employee’s salary (and you expect him to work even better), but he is tired and wants days off, reduced working hours or a long break.

The increase in work will not only reduce the motivation, but it will also put a lot of pressure, and therefore the job satisfaction will be significantly reduced.

Why Motivation Is Necessary For Your Success?

Do you know why motivation is important for your success and well being?

Success doesn’t just find you. You have to go out and get it.

Motivation aligns you to work towards your goals;
Increase energy levels;
Helps you to set priorities;
Increases your commitment;
Boost productivity;
Helps you change your bad habits.

These are not the only reasons motivation is essential in your life to be successful and happy, but they are the most important ones.

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What to do when you don’t feel like doing it? How to motivate yourself more?

Read more personal development books and blogs;
Listen to motivational videos;
Follow someone who is inspirational for you;
Hire a life coach;
Move your body;
Write down your goals;
Always make a plan and a to-do list;
Visualize;
Stimulate your work environment;
Hang out with positive and motivated people;
Reward yourself!



7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, by Stephen R. Covey

How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, by John C. Maxwell

 You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero

Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny, by Tony Robbins

How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie


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I do not know if you are overwhelmed by gratitude, but this is not a new trend if you think so. For years it has been talked about, and these past few years people have only actualized it in a new form that has become a trend.

This implies that something that lasts long is something useful and functional. In this post, I want to emphasize the importance of gratitude and share why it is so important and in your life.

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Find out why gratitude is so powerful and important in our lives. Gratitude, positive mindset and positive psychology are trending for a good reason. If you want to find happiness - find gratitude.

What is gratitude?

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and readiness to show appreciation.

I believe there are many ways to explain gratitude, but this one is sufficient. What is important is to remember that gratitude can become our habit and part of our everyday routine.

It’s challenging to remain grateful nowadays. The first reason is that the choice is enormous. There was not much choice in the past, but these days it is harder to make a choice.

The grass of the neighbor is greener than yours. Does this sound familiar? We always tend to compare ourselves with others and being grateful is a way to overcome over comparing.

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Celebrate the present moment

Gratitude is something that makes us celebrate the present moment. In a way, it reminds us of what we own and about the things we are proud of.

What do I have at this moment? Who are the people around me? How is my health? What is my financial situation? Can I afford to eat daily? What is the weather today? Do I have clothes? Have I woken up alive and well today? Can I see?

I’m sure that at this moment there are at least ten things for you can be happy and grateful. It’s the fortune of gratitude.

Every day, every moment, you can find at least one thing to which you can be thankful. And this leads us to the next thing – being grateful makes you shift your focus and block negativity.

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Block negativity

If you are tempted to change your mindset and live a positive life, definitely one of the best ways to achieve that is through practicing gratitude.

I think that now it’s much clearer why gratitude is so trendy. In fact, positive psychology and positive mindset are trending, but to achieve this, you must first master the art of gratitude.

Тhere is nothing better than a positive mindset. It makes us love ourselves more, increase our self-esteem and self-worth, and develop our personality in a positive direction.

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There is one beautiful quote by Oprah Winfrey, which I often hear, and is designed precisely for this.

Be thankful for what you have; you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
– Oprah Winfrey

Be thankful and shift your focus. Those who follow the law of attraction are already well acquainted with this.

Will a man be happier if he has more money than enough? Science says he will not be happier if he has more than necessary. But of course, happiness is reduced if there is less than enough.

If the focus remains on the problem, how will we find the solution? We often waste our energy on thinking about the problem and worrying for hours, instead of taking action to overcome it. A person feels fulfilled and happy only if he is productive and he works on his own happiness.

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Increase productivity and happiness

Yes, that’s right. People are created to create. Gratitude brings faith in ourselves, in other people, but also hope that everything will be well and resolved.

Practicing gratitude makes us happier because we keep thinking about the good things in life, and in that way, we become more productive. It’s a motivation for advancement and improvement because there is nothing better than waking up and listing ten fantastic things you are grateful for.

Here are some of the most popular TED TALKS related to gratitude that I believe you will love a lot.

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Find out why gratitude is so powerful and important in our lives. Gratitude, positive mindset and positive psychology are trending for a good reason. If you want to find happiness - find gratitude.

This month is dedicated to Deepak Chopra. Every day there is a new quote of him on the blog. It gave me inspiration for a fascinating mental exercise that I believe will work well for all of us.

I adore challenges, so I want to start one with you.

Deepak Chopra is the author of many books, a public speaker, and also deals with alternative medicine. But his biography is not essential in this challenge.

What matters to me is that his books and speeches always contain a lot. So let’s explain this. In this post, I will share with you 30 quotes from Deepak Chopra. Read one quote every day and see what this quote will awake in you.

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

The 30 Day Deepak Chopra Challenge

For this challenge, you need one quote from Deepak Chopra every day, a notebook and a pen. It doesn’t matter which day of the month you will start this challenge. You can start it anytime and anywhere. Think of this as a sign from the Universe and whenever you see this post you can start the challenge, either 1st or 31st of the month.

Every morning read one quote.

Sit in a quiet and peaceful place and be in touch with what you read. Did it provoke something in you? Does it remind you of something? Is there anything you want to do? Did you learn something new about yourself? If not, what did this quote means? Do you agree?

Perhaps every quote won’t awake too many emotions every day, but I believe that you will have a new motivation each day. After 30 days, read the notebook and all the stuff you wrote. I am sure that you will learn many new things about yourself.

You can do this exercise with your morning coffee or tea, on the road to work, or somewhere in between. It will not take you more than 5 minutes a day, but I am sure you will feel empowered afterward.

If one or several quotes provoke in you something big and you can’t deal with it alone, please consult with a therapist.

If you are interested in other mental exercises, check The Mental Exercise That Completely Changed My Life.

I really try to invest as much free time as possible for personal growth and development, and I think that there is nothing more beautiful than such a quick mental exercise, which primarily forces us to think, to be in contact with ourselves, our emotions and our thoughts.

It’s great if you’re not a type that wants to meditate, but I believe that each of these quotes can be seen as a sign from the universe to you.

On this link, you can found Deepak Chopra’s YouTube channel, and on this link, you will find his web site, if you are interested to know more about and from him.

You can do this exercise with other authors and quotes. It is not necessary to use these. If you like these kinds of challenges, I can do them more often.

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Here are some of his most famous books.

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams

The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life

The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire: Harnessing the Infinite Power of Coincidence 

Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul: How to Create a New You

What Are You Hungry For?: The Chopra Solution to Permanent Weight Loss, Well-Being, and Lightness of Soul 

Quantum Healing (Revised and Updated): Exploring the Frontiers of Mind/Body Medicine

Day 1

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.



Sit in a quiet and peaceful place and be in touch with what you read. Did it provoke something in you? Does it remind you of something? Is there anything you want to do? Did you learn something new about yourself? If not, what did this quote means? Do you agree with it?

Do this for the next 29 days. Enjoy the challenge!

Day 2

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 3

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 4

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 5

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 6

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 7

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 8

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 9

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 10

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 11

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 12

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 13

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 14

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 15

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 16

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 17

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 18

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 19

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 20

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 21

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 22

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 23

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 24

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 25

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 26

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 27

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 28

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 29

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

Day 30

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

If you got to the 30th day, congrats. I know it’s not easy to be on personal growth and development journey, and I also know how difficult it is to separate time for the same if you have too many obligations.

That’s why I made this challenge that will not take more than 5 minutes a day, and I believe it will awaken in you many things that you forget. If nothing else, I’m sure that if you did this to the end, every day you had a small reminder of life and all those significant things. You also had a slight motivation for the upcoming day, and if these quotes provoked a lot more, then my goal is done.

If you like this challenge, I can do it every month with a different author. Write me a message or leave a comment down below.

Stay Positive!

Personal development challenge with Deepak Chopra. If you are on a personal growth journey and want to live your best life, try this challenge with us. You will only need a notebook and a pen.

I know what it means to be broke, but I also know that mental health is essential and you MUST take care of it. Everyone deserves to be healthy and happy, so I decided to make a post about the things you could do if you can’t afford therapy.

Before I continue, please bear in mind that consulting with a professional is a MUST if you suffer severe depression or other mental condition. Some of them require medicational therapy, and a professional will know what to do next.

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What to do if you can not allow therapy? Tips from a therapist how to help yourself and live the life you deserve

Also, there is a stigma in the society that people that visit a therapist are mad, insane and ill. In therapy come people with severe problems, grief, anxiousness, depression, problems in their marriage, work or just because of self-growth and development.

I am not against therapy, but in my opinion, it is essential for us to learn how to help ourselves. It’s a skill that a great therapist will help you learn it so you won’t depend on therapy anymore.

Although life can be very unpredictable and visiting a therapist now and then is great, I want to share with you several things you can do to help yourself.

There is a risk to open some painful memory and issue in your life and don’t know how to deal with it. In that situation, a therapist is required, and there it’s not much you can do, except to stay calm and avoid thinking about that issue.

Find a training clinic or mental health center

The first thing to do if you can’t afford a therapy is to search for a training clinic near you. There are places where you can find free therapy. Psychology students offer free therapy sessions, and they are great because they are under the supervision of experienced therapists.

Also, search for a mental health center where you can find very cheap therapy or even free. If you find a free therapy, then you find a solution to your problem. But, if you can’t find a therapist, or you don’t feel comfortable to go in therapy, I will share with you other things you can do to feel better and work on your self-growth and development.

Give yourself a break

OK. You realize something is going on, and you can’t afford therapy. What can I do? Where to start? Give yourself a break! Don’t rush out with decisions, goals, tasks. It will make you more stressed that you already are.

Take a vacation if you can, day off from work, and find someone to take care of your home. Ask your partner to do the housework, take responsibility of the children, buy groceries, pay the bills. Sometimes these things will keep you occupied, and sometimes they can make you even more stressed. That is why I recommend you to take a day off and give yourself a break.

If you are tired, don’t give up! Rest! We often give up our paths and dreams just because we are tired. Tiredness is something completely normal, and it should not be an obstacle in the realization of our life path and vision, but on the contrary, tiredness is here to give us a sign that it is time to slow down. It’s time to take care of yourself and to love yourself more.

That’s why there is a break from work, coffee with friends, spa centers, vacations, holidays, parks, etc.


What to do if you can not allow therapy? Tips from a therapist how to help yourself and live the life you deserve

Make a plan

Еach therapy starts with a plan. Тhe therapist makes an analysis and in agreement with the client decide on what the session will be directed. It should be the same with a self-therapy. Make a plan and decide on what will you put your focus on. You can quickly lose yourself in your thoughts, and that is why making a good plan and writing down your issue is very important.

Another significant thing is that people have a vast number of defensive mechanisms, and although they are primarily aimed at protecting us, they can be quite problematic when it comes to personal growth and development and solving a particular problem.

How to make a plan?

First, you must decide what you will put your focus on. Then analyze your self, your strengths, and your weaknesses. Don’t be afraid of them, we all have plenty. Now put the focus on your strengths.

They are the most important. Focusing on them will help you make them even better.

On the other hand, create a plan for how to overcome the issue to live happier. This step is not easy, and that is why I encourage you to search more on how to make a self-development plan. The next step is to take action and start the journey. Prepare for bad days and exceptions on the way. Always put time for self-love and care in the plan.

The journey of personal growth and development can be very exhausting. Therefore I will again remind you how much rest is essential.

Journaling

As a psychologist, I recommend journaling (writing a diary) almost for everything. Why journaling?

Еvery day, whether it’s in the morning or in the evening, you do an analysis of all the things that happened to you, all the emotions that have emerged, all the unusual and positive events, but also all the places where negative emotions and stress appear.

In this way, through this analysis, you can accurately determine which things are right for you, and which are harmful and you want to reduce them or completely reject them. For example, that day you drank coffee with a friend, and suddenly you had a headache, fatigue, and a negative set of thoughts. What would that mean for you?

I would say that if this is something that is repeated, it is likely that this person is toxic to you and it would be good to avoid him. If it’s not something that happens continuously, then check if the conversation mentions something that may have caused such a reaction.

Тhis is just one example, but I think it is sufficient to understand the importance of writing a diary. The best way to self-analyze is precisely this technique, although it can be entirely subjective. Therefore, make a weekly analysis of the written, by making sure you read the diary as a third person.

I will offer an exciting way of analyzing the diary. Read it as a third person every week, but write down on one sheet of paper all the emotions you encounter in the journal. How many positive emotions there are, as opposed to the negative ones. What emotions prevail? What is your dominant vibration? When you spit this, I believe that self-analysis will become much easier. What can I do to get better? What is great in my life?

Find a support group

If you can’t afford therapy, you can provide a good company. I love support groups, although there aren’t much in the country where I live, and I don’t have a lot of experience with them.

Why? The members in a support group provide help, support and usually, they share their coping mechanisms. That way they all feel empowered, and they establish social networks. There is one great thing in the support group, and that is the fact that they can be online.

There is not much evidence how much these online support groups help, but for sure they are great for providing a sympathetic understanding and relating personal experiences. I would love to open a support group online, but I still don’t have much time with a baby at home. If I do, I will let you know to join.

Self – help books, blogs and motivational videos

I put these all together because they all have the same purpose. Books, blog posts and videos are here to inform you, to educate you and to motivate you. Some people love to read, some to watch, and some to listen. If you like to read, focus on self-development blogs, self-care books, and websites. If you are a more visual person, watch motivational and self-help videos, and if you love to listen, you can always listen to audiobooks.

I have to share that this is for me the most effective way for personal development, but also motivation, self-love, and change. But every person is different, and I can not say with certainty that this way will be the best for you too. I have experience with a client who was listening to motivational videos shook and came into a state of neurosis, which had to be resolved with therapy. Having in the background this experience, I must tell you to be careful with all the techniques you take on yourself, and therefore the first step in this post is to do everything in your power to find free therapy.

Of course, this is a rare extremity that has happened, and to a person who takes little care of himself, but in the next steps I will explain and propose a few things that you need to do in order to help yourself.

Something I noticed is that after reading a good book, I change the look of life. So when I started my psychotherapy studies, after the first book, I changed my entire worldview. And it is interesting how every subsequent one was complemented and continued to evolve and shape my character and view of things. After a certain period, I made a pause with my studies, and I began to read books on motivation, self-therapy, self-love, building a positive attitude, positive thoughts, changing thoughts, changing wrong beliefs, etc.

Precisely these books, when connected with my previous knowledge as a psychologist and student of psychotherapy, completely changed my life.
To be more explicit, I had the knowledge and practice that I did not know how to apply to myself.

Classical literature on psychology and psychotherapy focused me on observation, overemphasis, client affection, focusing on the problem, attempting to capture defensive mechanisms, etc. In the whole circle, I totally forgot to love myself and to make my life cheerful.

I do not say that the focus of those books is on the negative aspects, on the contrary, the initial goal of the therapy itself is to strengthen the client’s capacities, to understand the weaknesses and to achieve well-being. But, like many other things in life, more attention is paid to the bad, the negative, the painful, etc., rather than on the good aspects.

I do not know if you find yourself in this category, but I noticed how much more I pay attention to the negative aspects. I think that’s because I’m a perfectionist (although I’ve been working on the case for over seven years). When I started reading motivational books, books on positive psychology, habits of successful and happy people, I realized that I had forgotten myself completely.

How can I help my clients and guide them when I am very little motivated, moody and definitely dominated by negative emotions in my everyday life. I also saw this by writing a diary where I measured my feelings for a certain period.
 

Some of my favorite personal development books:

YOU’RE IN CHARGE: A Guide to Becoming Your Own Therapist
The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People
Conversations with God
The 5 Love Languages
You Can Heal Your Life
You Are A BadAss

Some of my favorite YouTube Channels:

Evan Carmichael
Pick Up Limes
Be Inspired
The Chopra Well
Amy Landino
Mindvalley
Brendon.com
Tony Robbins
Tom Bilyeu
Lewis Howes
Mel Robbins

These are the key things you can apply as a self-therapy. But, I have already mentioned before, only these things are never sufficient to fully recover and change for the better. I like the holistic approach in any field, especially in therapy. It would mean that living only in our head is not sufficient. I want to emphasize the care of our body, and not focus on the soul and the mind alone.

This is what I forgot about constantly while I was practicing for a psychotherapist. I always wondered, should I look good as a therapist? And the answer was always YES.

What then can you do more? I will devote the next part to some things that are often forgotten. It has been proven that some things hang out positively for us, our hormonal balance and well-being.

We are all individual creatures, and we have different needs, desires, and goals in life. That is the reason there are so many types of psychotherapy, various schools and psychology courses, different fitness programs, sports, dances, music, flavors, etc. There is no fit for everyone.

Try to live outside your head

Sometimes, the best solution is to try not to think of all that bothers you. I know it’s terribly hard to get rid of thoughts from a problem or thought that had bothered you for a long time, but fortunately, there are more ways to achieve this. All these activities are helpful to include them in the plan, so you don’t forget them.

When you live outside of your head, enlightenment can occur. What? Yes, when you learn from time to time to live outside of your head, you will feel what it means to be here and now, to be present.

If that presence leads you to cry, you cry. Do not collect everything in yourself, and when you try to stubbornly think, it is very often that these tears appear as a sign that they really weigh you down. Crying is healthy, necessary and useful for mental health.

When I mentioned at the beginning that you have to give yourself time, I think that you should give yourself time to cry, to allow yourself to regret, to grieve, and to be in a depressed mood.

Exercise

I know that this advice is being heard continuously, and it is one of my most hated when I hear it. But when I say to exercise, I do not mean just on classical membership in the gym. I mean any sport, and it would be even more fun if it’s a social sport where you will not be alone.

My favorite activity for relaxing my mind and body is a walk by the water. I’m lucky to live close to a river, so when the weather is nice, I want to spend time there. The sound calms down and gives me inspiration. Find a place to take walks; fast walking is a great exercise and much more effective than exhausting training. Also, picnic, hiking, swimming, skiing, they are all beautiful ways of exercise, and they are also fun.

Take care of your health

Having a balanced diet, drinking plenty of water, creating healthy habits. All these things are well known, and there is no need to write much on this topic. What matters to you are two things:

First one is to reduce alcohol, or completely quit it. I do not consume alcohol, it’s a psychotropic substance, and nobody can convince me that it is not. When I went to practice in the final year of college, I spent one week in a place for addicts. What alcohol makes to the addict, the family and the environment is terrible. What is most tragic, he can not give up and save himself because of the very reason that everyone around him drinks.

Alcohol is not desirable when you are not stable psychologically, and therefore it’s best to avoid it. Both, alcohol and other psychotropic substances, of course. This is not the time to seek an excuse of the type “I was drunk”; on the contrary, this is a time of consciousness and spirituality.

The second significant thing is to receive vitamin D, Omega 3, and vitamin B. Vitamin B6 is soothing, and many studies have proven its effectiveness. There is plenty of vitamin D in fatty fish like salmon, beef liver and egg yolks. Use the good weather and the sun whenever you are able.

Self-care

I have already spent a lot of energy on writing about self-love. One of the more popular posts is Why it’s so hard to love yourself, so I explained there the reasons for this, and I advise you to read that post. Here I will not write much of the ways that you can care for yourself because I also have another post for compelling ideas to practice self-love.

The only thing I would recommend is to choose one day each week to dedicate on yourself only. That day let yourself be lazy, make a pedicure, a manicure, a new hairstyle, a massage, a spa or whatever comes to your mind. Many times when I feel bad, I just want a good massage and pedicure. Somebody to work for me. I need relaxation.

Try alternative methods

I have already mentioned that there are many types of psychotherapy, and there is a good reason for that. Each type has its own advantages and disadvantages, and as time passes and I gain more experience, I realize that a mix of several different therapy schoolings would be perfect for every client. Each period carries different needs, each client has different requirements, and each therapy has its own specific goal. That’s why I want to encourage you to explore and learn.

There are many techniques that you can apply yourself, which I believe will be very useful. I will list a few who come to mind, but there are many others, and that’s why I want to encourage you to explore more. I am pleased to live now when I can learn, but also share my knowledge with others. You can find everything on the online.

In the first place, I will put minimalism as a technique, or way of life to try out. Clear your physical space. I remember, in the second year of my college, I had an excellent teacher in developmental psychology. I say excellent because she regularly shared personal experiences, and that’s the best way for me to learn.

That professor shared that when she began to attend therapy, she regularly dreamed of how she is cleaning her house. After a while, she realized that in the dream she is “cleaning” her mind and soul. This is something I would always recommend. Living with less is living with more.

Тhis year I’m working on the case to apply it to my whole family. It’s not easy to be a minimalist with a baby and a husband who has 20 pairs of trainers, but I believe I will be able to knock off other things.

Other things I want to recommend and leave you to explore more are music therapy, art therapy, yoga, meditation, and aromatherapy.

Of course, there are many other alternative methods that you can use, but these are the ones that I remembered. I am sure that if you apply all these steps your life will change for the better. I hope everything will be fine, and you will be able to overcome the crisis, but do not forget to continue to take care of yourself.

Stay Positive!

Also check:

The Mental Exercise That Completely Changed My Life
Happy Women Habits
How To Forgive Yourself
The First Step Toward Change


What to do if you can not allow therapy? Tips from a therapist how to help yourself and live the life you deserve

I think it is about time for me to share with you this story and encourage you to do the mental exercise that completely changed my life. It is an exercise from the book “YOU’RE IN CHARGE: A Guide to Becoming Your Own Therapist” by Janette Rainwater, 1979.

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This is a life-changing mental exercise called The Next 3 Years. Several years ago this mental exercise saved my life and I still use it for personal growth and living the life of my dreams.

Yes, it is published in 1979! It is definitely not one of the new self-help books. But, in my opinion, it is the first book everyone should read if it’s on a self-development journey.

First, I want to be completely honest with you and tell you how I underestimated this book several years ago. A dear professor recommended me this book in the last year of University, and I took it for granted.

But, to have a higher score, my professor required me to do some of these book mental exercises. Today, I just can’t find words to express how thankful I am for having such an excellent professor. Several years later, I understand why this book was his favorite, and it is one of my favorite self-development books too.

The Power Of Gratitude

This book offers dozens of mental exercises, but I will share with you the one that completely changed my life.

I didn’t realize this until several months ago when I found my old journal where I wrote everything that was required to do in this mental exercise. I was shocked and pleasantly surprised.

The most exciting part is that the exercise is called The Next Three Years, and it’s been a little bit more than three years since I did it.

Long story short, since I become a mother, I am aware that personal growth and development are significant. It is not only about me anymore, but it is also about being a great role model for my child too. The first time I did this mental exercise I wanted to be a mother, and I am so grateful today that I succeeded. I didn’t even realize how strong my wish to be a mother was until I saw this old journal of mine.

I decided to do this exercise every now and then to consistently grow and be aware. Of course, you can’t change your life with only one step, but the journey of 1000 miles starts with that one step.

I continuously write about the importance of awareness and acceptance, but I know that awareness is not something you can achieve smooth, especially with so many things on your mind. But, these kinds of mental exercises are excellent because they guide you in awareness and help you to realize what is right and what can be improved.

You can easily map the great things in your life and concentrate on them, instead of the things you don’t like and want for you.

This is a life-changing mental exercise called The Next 3 Years. Several years ago this mental exercise saved my life and I still use it for personal growth and living the life of my dreams.

The Next Three Years

This is the last mental exercise in the book “YOU ARE IN CHARGE: A Guide to Becoming Your Own Therapist” by Janette Rainwater. I will share this mental exercise with you, but it is much better to find it in her book.

Bear in mind that this is the last exercise in her book and there is a good reason for it. I encourage you to start a personal growth journey, find a pen and a paper and write everything down.

Almost every mental activity requires mindfulness.
Breath and feel your body. Become aware of the present moment. Sit or lay down in a comfortable position. Imagine that you were told that you have only 3 years left to live.

You will be healthy in that period. Instead of being angry, use your imagination and decide how you are going to spend those last three years of your life.

Where do you want to live?
Who do you want to live with?
Would you like to work?
Would you like to learn?

Compare your life with the life you imagined to live. Find the similarities. What is different? Is there something you can implement in your daily life right now? What was most important for you?

I like to write month by month for the next three years. Every detail I can think of. 36 months.

Now, forget the thought that you have only three years left. Put that thought as far away as you can. Remember just those things that can serve you in the long term and make your life more beautiful.

Please, bear in mind that you MUST be in a healthy condition and consult with a professional before trying anything new.

If this mental exercise makes you feel anxious, please visit a therapist.

Write down everything you think is necessary from this mental exercise. I believe that this is the exercise that helped me to realize what I really want in my life and I hope you will too.

In her book, Jannete explains how this exercise helped her realize that she has always wanted to write a book. She realized that it is about time to write the book and share her knowledge with the world.

This exercise helped me to realize that I am surrounded by toxic and negative people. I understand now that I don’t spend enough time with the people I love and care about. But also that I love being a mom and it is about time for me to start living my dream life.

Everyone is obsessed with gratitude and meditation, and I am too. They are great for everyone. But also, I hope that people won’t forget to read more self-help books and try different mental exercises, such as these guided meditations.

I hope that sharing this with all of you will help you to live the life you deserve. Self-development is a long journey, and every mental exercise will lead you to a different place. The most important thing is to enjoy the journey.

If you are on a self-development journey, I recommend you to read The First Step Towards Change first.

Stay Positive!

Also, check:
9 Powerful Ways To Practice Self-Love
Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself
How To Forgive Yourself and Live the Life You Deserve
Important Reasons To Love Yourself
Habits Of All Happy Women

This is a life-changing mental exercise called The Next 3 Years. Several years ago this mental exercise saved my life and I still use it for personal growth and living the life of my dreams.
This is a life-changing mental exercise called The Next 3 Years. Several years ago this mental exercise saved my life and I still use it for personal growth and living the life of my dreams.

EVERY day is the perfect time to celebrate love, and there is nothing more beautiful than to celebrate it with great love books. I have a goal for 2019 to read at least two books a month, so I made a list of books that I would love to read. So it came to me that it is about time to share some great books with you, and maybe encourage you to start reading more.

I have always loved books, and I really couldn’t imagine a weekend or a vacation without a book in my hands. Book lovers would understand me. It’s the era of videos, and I am aware that people are reading less because of the numerous number of videos everywhere. You can have fun watching movies, videos, tutorials, etc., but it is not the same as reading a book. Reading develops the imagination, and this is the main reason to read more and watch less. And while there are several good reasons why reading is so important, in my mind, the most important one is that it develops the mind.

In this post, I would love to share with you eight love books that will change your love perception and life. There are dozens of love books out there, and I am sure you already have at least two in mind. My list is very long, but I decided to be more precise and share with you only the books that have changed my love perception, but also books that are entertaining.

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Love Books That Drastically Changed My Love Life. If you are into personal development and self-care, these books are perfect choice for you!

Brida – Paulo Coelho

The master storyteller and my favorite author Paulo Coelho is the one that I will recommend most here and always. His books are fun, magical, exciting and have a unique story that will open your eyes. The first book that made me fall in love with Coelho is The Alchemist. I was 12 years old and fascinated by the story. Although, The Alchemist is a life-changing book, the first book that came in my mind from Coelho that have changed my love perception was Brida.

Brida is a book about soulmates, love, life, and magic. About one soul in a different body. But, is it necessary to be with our soulmates forever? Is there only one soulmate out there? All these answers I found in this book at the end.

Adultery – Paulo Coelho

I told you that my favorite author is Coelho. I love all his books. In 2014 he published Adultery – the novel that many psychologists like. It is a book about depression, apathy, love, intimacy and much more. This is the book that I always recommend to people that has no energy in their relationships. Why? It is a story about a woman that explores what it means to be happy. If you want a book that is fun to read with a great story but also to learn more about love, happiness, and depression – this is the perfect match. Adultery is in my opinion, one of his best books.

Eleven Minutes – Paulo Coelho

And yes, the first three books on my list are from Coelho. But I love his style, and I love books that are entertaining but bring a great message to the reader. Eleven Minutes is very famous, and there is a good reason for it. Every time I read this book, I realize something different, and that is the main reason I put it on this list. Yes, I read one book several times if I like it. 🙂

It is a story about a young girl from Brazil who goes to search for her fortune in Switzerland. If you love books, please read this one and let me know what you think. The story is terrific, and Coelho made this book a masterpiece.

No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it.

When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.

The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman

Dr. Gary Chapman is someone I admire. He is the author of many books and I want to read them all. The Five Love Languages is the best book about love and marriage. His writing style is straightforward and effortless, and this book is educational with real-life stories as examples. Something I really like in this book is that it is eyeopening. If you want to save your relationship, found out what you love, explore love, and find out what your children like – read this book. I can’t express enough gratitude to Dr. Gary Chapman for writing this book. You can also discover your love language and even the love language of your child here.

There is something about this book that is very special and I know that you will enjoy it.

The Art Of Loving – Erich Fromm

This is a book I read in my first year in University that has totally changed my perception of love, The Art Of Loving by Erick Fromm. Erich Fromm was a social psychologist and humanistic philosopher. In this book, he explained love in details and how we develop the skill to love.

In this book, he presents 4 basic love elements: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. According to Fromm, loving oneself is not the same as selfish, egotistical or arrogant. Loving oneself is actually caring for ourselves, taking responsibility about ourselves, respecting ourselves and knowing ourselves.

I recommend you to read this book in order to learn more about love, unconditional love, and self-love.

Why We Love? – Helen Fisher

This book is not a novel, and not so entertaining, but it is beneficial and educational. Helen Fisher is an anthropologist and she offers a very different approach and research. It won’t be fun if I tell you the story, so if you are interested in love, why we love, what happens in our brain, and in our bodies – read this book. You will be surprised, and I am sure that this love book will change your love perspective a lot.

Being In Love – Osho

If you want to live happily, if you are into personal development, self-love and living a mindful life, don’t forget Osho. Being in love: How to Love with Awareness and Relate Without Fear is a book about love without jealousy or possessiveness. You will find much beneficial information in this book, and I am sure that it will change your love perspective.

Everybody is interested in getting, and nobody seems to enjoy giving.

How To Love – Thich Nhat Hanh

Thich Nhat Hanh is a Zen master and a spiritual leader. He is the best teacher if you want to learn mindfulness, mindful living, and self-love. Bear in mind that this wonderful man has over 100 books. Is it possible to love someone else if you don’t love yourself? How To Love will give you more answers than you can imagine, but also it is an excellent gift for someone you love.

These were my top eight love books that changed my love life. I hope you will find them useful too. There are a million other books out there that I am sure are great, and I would love to hear some suggestions from you. Are there any love books that changed your love perception?

Powerful Ways To Practice Self-Love
Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself
Important Reasons To Love Yourself – The Art Of Self-Dates

Stay Positive!

Love Books That Drastically Changed My Love Life. If you are into personal development and self-care, these books are perfect choice for you!

Date – a social or romantic appointment or engagement. And what does it mean to date yourself, is that possible and why do we need that right now?
It’s the month of love and I really think that people often forget to love themselves and to do wonderful things and buy great presents (for themselves).

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. – Robert Morley

Often Valentine’s Day can make you feel worse and remind you that you are single. But even if you aren’t single, it can make you feel lonely and to feel pressure. I am all about love and making others feel loved and appreciated. But I also want to highlight the importance of self-love and to share with you several ways to practice self-love.

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Important Reasons to LOVE YOURSELF and The Importance of self-dates. Why self-dates are so important for your personal growth and development?

The idea for this post came to me after a meeting with a friend of mine that is never single. She is always in toxic relationships with “the wrong man”.
When I asked her “why don’t you let yourself to be alone, single and just enjoy life,” she answered that she is just so afraid to be alone. I’ll be lost she said. At first, I couldn’t understand that. But, this is something common and there are a lot of other women that don’t want to be alone and jump from one to another relationship.

Every single one of these women has a different and individual reason for this pattern. Find out some of the most important reasons to love yourself and the art of dating yourself.

In my previous posts Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself and Powerful Ways To Practice Self Love, I explained what is self-love and how to practice it so check it out if you want to know more.

Another common question that is somehow connected with this post is:

“Why is it that I want people to like and appreciate me, but when they do, I feel like I don’t deserve it?”.

What would be the answer of this question? Low self-esteem, no self-love?

This is something very common and I think that we should all educate on self-love more.

Why Is So Important To Love Yourself?

In order to stop the chain and finally live a happy and fulfilled life of your dreams, you must develop some habits and become aware of yourself, other people, and your surrounding. Instead of “sleeping” on Instagram and watching beautiful, smart and successful women, look at yourself and see what you can do to improve the quality of your life.

You will be surprised

Comparing to other people can be beneficial sometimes, but most of the time it is a really bad habit that you developed because of society. People that have been compared as children and teenagers, develop a habit to compare others and themselves through their lives. And spending 1 second of comparing is too much to waste.

Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakes. – Carl G. Jung

This is something the great psychologist Carl Gustav Jung said a long time ago. I have no idea why and where (I would have to check in my books) but that is not important now. The way I see this quote is that people tend to dream, imagine, compare, search everything in other people, but forget to seek inside and become aware of themselves. We all have qualities, good traits, talents, blessings, etc. But how could we see them when we never seek inside?

Comparison puts the focus on the wrong person. What does she posses is not what matters. Who am I? Do you know all your qualities? I was surprised when I found out how courage I was, although my whole life I was comparing myself with my sisters (that are 5 and 10 years older than me) and in my eyes, I was a coward. The thing is, I couldn’t see that I am a very brave woman and I didn’t want to take risks and get out of my comfort zone for so long. I was also very surprised to found out that I am a great orator ( how could I found out this when I was comparing my whole life with so much older than me ).

In order to look inside, you must first have a desire to do that. So I encourage you to start a journey that will not be easy, but It will be worthed. Stop comparing yourself for at least one month. Make a new habit.

You will have more self-esteem

When you love yourself, you also develop a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is very important, especially if you are on a self-develop journey and want to live a happy life. Self-esteem is a trait that you must constantly develop because life is not a straight line.

People with high and healthy level of self-esteem trust their own judgement, believe in their capabilities and are aware of their weaknesses. But they know how to defend themselves because they firmly believe in certain values. Also, people with high self-esteem consider them equal in dignity with others not inferior or superior.

Don’t expect to be appreciated if you don’t love yourself first. Usually, people with low self-esteem are in a toxic relationship and very often victims (psychopaths target, etc).

You will forgive yourself and move on

When you love yourself you accept who you are and forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself is not something easy but you will get there once you start loving yourself. Is there someone more important in this world than you? You are most important!

You are worthy, you are smart, you are king, you are beautiful!

When you experience forgiveness you will feel happiness and real freedom. You did what you know best at that time and at this moment you are not your mistake.


You will know and follow your passion

A life without a purpose is empty. When you love yourself you aren’t afraid to ask for more and get more. When you love yourself you are not afraid to seek your passion and live the life of your dreams. Self-love will open your eyes and give you the courage to dream more. Ask and you will receive!

How to find your passion and your purpose in life?

You get in life what you have the courage to ask for. – Oprah Winfrey

You will be open to receive and give love

Isn’t this the most important one? 😀
You can’t love others if you first don’t love yourself. I bet you hear this all the time and deep down you know it’s true.

Many people don’t understand that they are wonderful, they are precious, they deserve wealth, happiness and all the love in this world. That is why it is very important to learn and work on self – development, and self – growth constantly.

When you start loving yourself, you open to receive, but also to give love. And this receiving and giving love is the best thing in the whole World. So prepare to love and be loved.

Where there is love, there is life. – Mahatma Gandhi


You become a better person

And the most important reasons to love yourself is the last one. You become a better person when you start loving yourself. And who doesn’t want to be better? Self-development is a long journey and one of the most important things is developing self-love and self-esteem in order to be happy and live the life you deserve.

Be creative and find more ways to show yourself some love. A person who love themself is usually happy and fulfilled. I really hope that people will stop misunderstand self-love with arrogance, egotism, and selfishness. You are not selfish for loving yourself!

The Art Of Self-Dates

Who says that a date has to be with two people? You can always have a self-date and enjoy more than to go out on a date with the wrong person. Self-dates are really useful if you are single, but also in a relationship and marriage. People often forget to do beautiful things and buy beautiful presents for themselves. In order to practice self-love and to enjoy love, I picked several ideas that I personally find them interesting and relaxing.

Be creative and make your own list of self-dates. These are some that I would love to do.

Self-dates are very important to improve your self-esteem, to have greater life satisfaction and to improve your mental health in general. Use self-love as a foundation to live happier life and to achieve personal development.

Today is the day to love yourself with no expectation! – Louise Hay

Tea or coffee – if you are like me, then you must enjoy a cup of coffee or herbal tea. I love to experiment with flavors and I always make tea while I work. Choose your best coffee shop, take one to go and sit in the park, or just stay at home and enjoy your favorite coffee. If you decide to stay at home, as I usually do, make sure you serve your tea or coffee in your favorite mug. This is the one I use, but I bet you already have one in your pantry.

Book – books are my favorite way to show myself some love. As a teenager, I used to read novels, but now I tend to read more educational books, for personal development. I don’t want to waste time, and there is nothing more important than education and love. There are so many books I would recommend you and I just can’t pick one. At the moment I read one chapter before bed and that is usually at least 2 books monthly. The next book on my list is Becoming from Michele Obama.

Sweet dessert – buy or make yourself a sweet, delicious dessert. You don’t need a company to enjoy a great dessert and just relax.

Dinner – make yourself dinner. Your favorite one without counting calories and healthy fats. Just enjoy the process of making the dish. You can experiment and try some new, exotic recipes you’ve never tried before. Just don’t forget to take pictures. 🙂

Shopping – I love giving presents, but I also love receiving them. But why don’t you buy yourself a present? Something you really love and would make you feel better. Spend your money on yourself!

Bath – take a bubble bath and enjoy!

Pedicure and manicure – don’t forget to take care for your outer beauty. Have a little pumper routine at least twice a month.

Exercise – great self-date. Go on one aerobic, fitness or dance class. Maybe you will start a new hobby. Why waste time on dates with the wrong people when you can invest in yourself?

Movie night – Yes! Netflix! Don’t forget the popcorns. 🙂

Picnic – I love nature and I think it’s a great idea to spend some time on the sun with yourself.

Watch the sunset – and also you can watch the sunset. It is so romantic and relaxing.

Make a vision board – take some old magazines or use Pinterest to make a digital one. It is so fun activity and be careful what you wish for. 😉

Meditate – find online lead meditations and spend some quality time. You will feel very relaxed afterward.

Book a massage – or some beauty treatment of your choice.

These are my ideas of a great date, but I am sure you already have an idea what to do. The most important thing is to always love yourself!

Stay Positive!

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