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EVERY day is the perfect time to celebrate love, and there is nothing more beautiful than to celebrate it with great love books. I have a goal for 2019 to read at least two books a month, so I made a list of books that I would love to read. So it came to me that it is about time to share some great books with you, and maybe encourage you to start reading more.

I have always loved books, and I really couldn’t imagine a weekend or a vacation without a book in my hands. Book lovers would understand me. It’s the era of videos, and I am aware that people are reading less because of the numerous number of videos everywhere. You can have fun watching movies, videos, tutorials, etc., but it is not the same as reading a book. Reading develops the imagination, and this is the main reason to read more and watch less. And while there are several good reasons why reading is so important, in my mind, the most important one is that it develops the mind.

In this post, I would love to share with you eight love books that will change your love perception and life. There are dozens of love books out there, and I am sure you already have at least two in mind. My list is very long, but I decided to be more precise and share with you only the books that have changed my love perception, but also books that are entertaining.

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Love Books That Drastically Changed My Love Life. If you are into personal development and self-care, these books are perfect choice for you!

Brida – Paulo Coelho

The master storyteller and my favorite author Paulo Coelho is the one that I will recommend most here and always. His books are fun, magical, exciting and have a unique story that will open your eyes. The first book that made me fall in love with Coelho is The Alchemist. I was 12 years old and fascinated by the story. Although, The Alchemist is a life-changing book, the first book that came in my mind from Coelho that have changed my love perception was Brida.

Brida is a book about soulmates, love, life, and magic. About one soul in a different body. But, is it necessary to be with our soulmates forever? Is there only one soulmate out there? All these answers I found in this book at the end.

Adultery – Paulo Coelho

I told you that my favorite author is Coelho. I love all his books. In 2014 he published Adultery – the novel that many psychologists like. It is a book about depression, apathy, love, intimacy and much more. This is the book that I always recommend to people that has no energy in their relationships. Why? It is a story about a woman that explores what it means to be happy. If you want a book that is fun to read with a great story but also to learn more about love, happiness, and depression – this is the perfect match. Adultery is in my opinion, one of his best books.

Eleven Minutes – Paulo Coelho

And yes, the first three books on my list are from Coelho. But I love his style, and I love books that are entertaining but bring a great message to the reader. Eleven Minutes is very famous, and there is a good reason for it. Every time I read this book, I realize something different, and that is the main reason I put it on this list. Yes, I read one book several times if I like it. 🙂

It is a story about a young girl from Brazil who goes to search for her fortune in Switzerland. If you love books, please read this one and let me know what you think. The story is terrific, and Coelho made this book a masterpiece.

No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it.

When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.

The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman

Dr. Gary Chapman is someone I admire. He is the author of many books and I want to read them all. The Five Love Languages is the best book about love and marriage. His writing style is straightforward and effortless, and this book is educational with real-life stories as examples. Something I really like in this book is that it is eyeopening. If you want to save your relationship, found out what you love, explore love, and find out what your children like – read this book. I can’t express enough gratitude to Dr. Gary Chapman for writing this book. You can also discover your love language and even the love language of your child here.

There is something about this book that is very special and I know that you will enjoy it.

The Art Of Loving – Erich Fromm

This is a book I read in my first year in University that has totally changed my perception of love, The Art Of Loving by Erick Fromm. Erich Fromm was a social psychologist and humanistic philosopher. In this book, he explained love in details and how we develop the skill to love.

In this book, he presents 4 basic love elements: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. According to Fromm, loving oneself is not the same as selfish, egotistical or arrogant. Loving oneself is actually caring for ourselves, taking responsibility about ourselves, respecting ourselves and knowing ourselves.

I recommend you to read this book in order to learn more about love, unconditional love, and self-love.

Why We Love? – Helen Fisher

This book is not a novel, and not so entertaining, but it is beneficial and educational. Helen Fisher is an anthropologist and she offers a very different approach and research. It won’t be fun if I tell you the story, so if you are interested in love, why we love, what happens in our brain, and in our bodies – read this book. You will be surprised, and I am sure that this love book will change your love perspective a lot.

Being In Love – Osho

If you want to live happily, if you are into personal development, self-love and living a mindful life, don’t forget Osho. Being in love: How to Love with Awareness and Relate Without Fear is a book about love without jealousy or possessiveness. You will find much beneficial information in this book, and I am sure that it will change your love perspective.

Everybody is interested in getting, and nobody seems to enjoy giving.

How To Love – Thich Nhat Hanh

Thich Nhat Hanh is a Zen master and a spiritual leader. He is the best teacher if you want to learn mindfulness, mindful living, and self-love. Bear in mind that this wonderful man has over 100 books. Is it possible to love someone else if you don’t love yourself? How To Love will give you more answers than you can imagine, but also it is an excellent gift for someone you love.

These were my top eight love books that changed my love life. I hope you will find them useful too. There are a million other books out there that I am sure are great, and I would love to hear some suggestions from you. Are there any love books that changed your love perception?

Powerful Ways To Practice Self-Love
Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself
Important Reasons To Love Yourself – The Art Of Self-Dates

Stay Positive!

Love Books That Drastically Changed My Love Life. If you are into personal development and self-care, these books are perfect choice for you!

Date – a social or romantic appointment or engagement. And what does it mean to date yourself, is that possible and why do we need that right now?
It’s the month of love and I really think that people often forget to love themselves and to do wonderful things and buy great presents (for themselves).

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. – Robert Morley

Often Valentine’s Day can make you feel worse and remind you that you are single. But even if you aren’t single, it can make you feel lonely and to feel pressure. I am all about love and making others feel loved and appreciated. But I also want to highlight the importance of self-love and to share with you several ways to practice self-love.

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Important Reasons to LOVE YOURSELF and The Importance of self-dates. Why self-dates are so important for your personal growth and development?

The idea for this post came to me after a meeting with a friend of mine that is never single. She is always in toxic relationships with “the wrong man”.
When I asked her “why don’t you let yourself to be alone, single and just enjoy life,” she answered that she is just so afraid to be alone. I’ll be lost she said. At first, I couldn’t understand that. But, this is something common and there are a lot of other women that don’t want to be alone and jump from one to another relationship.

Every single one of these women has a different and individual reason for this pattern. Find out some of the most important reasons to love yourself and the art of dating yourself.

In my previous posts Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself and Powerful Ways To Practice Self Love, I explained what is self-love and how to practice it so check it out if you want to know more.

Another common question that is somehow connected with this post is:

“Why is it that I want people to like and appreciate me, but when they do, I feel like I don’t deserve it?”.

What would be the answer of this question? Low self-esteem, no self-love?

This is something very common and I think that we should all educate on self-love more.

Why Is So Important To Love Yourself?

In order to stop the chain and finally live a happy and fulfilled life of your dreams, you must develop some habits and become aware of yourself, other people, and your surrounding. Instead of “sleeping” on Instagram and watching beautiful, smart and successful women, look at yourself and see what you can do to improve the quality of your life.

You will be surprised

Comparing to other people can be beneficial sometimes, but most of the time it is a really bad habit that you developed because of society. People that have been compared as children and teenagers, develop a habit to compare others and themselves through their lives. And spending 1 second of comparing is too much to waste.

Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakes. – Carl G. Jung

This is something the great psychologist Carl Gustav Jung said a long time ago. I have no idea why and where (I would have to check in my books) but that is not important now. The way I see this quote is that people tend to dream, imagine, compare, search everything in other people, but forget to seek inside and become aware of themselves. We all have qualities, good traits, talents, blessings, etc. But how could we see them when we never seek inside?

Comparison puts the focus on the wrong person. What does she posses is not what matters. Who am I? Do you know all your qualities? I was surprised when I found out how courage I was, although my whole life I was comparing myself with my sisters (that are 5 and 10 years older than me) and in my eyes, I was a coward. The thing is, I couldn’t see that I am a very brave woman and I didn’t want to take risks and get out of my comfort zone for so long. I was also very surprised to found out that I am a great orator ( how could I found out this when I was comparing my whole life with so much older than me ).

In order to look inside, you must first have a desire to do that. So I encourage you to start a journey that will not be easy, but It will be worthed. Stop comparing yourself for at least one month. Make a new habit.

You will have more self-esteem

When you love yourself, you also develop a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is very important, especially if you are on a self-develop journey and want to live a happy life. Self-esteem is a trait that you must constantly develop because life is not a straight line.

People with high and healthy level of self-esteem trust their own judgement, believe in their capabilities and are aware of their weaknesses. But they know how to defend themselves because they firmly believe in certain values. Also, people with high self-esteem consider them equal in dignity with others not inferior or superior.

Don’t expect to be appreciated if you don’t love yourself first. Usually, people with low self-esteem are in a toxic relationship and very often victims (psychopaths target, etc).

You will forgive yourself and move on

When you love yourself you accept who you are and forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself is not something easy but you will get there once you start loving yourself. Is there someone more important in this world than you? You are most important!

You are worthy, you are smart, you are king, you are beautiful!

When you experience forgiveness you will feel happiness and real freedom. You did what you know best at that time and at this moment you are not your mistake.


You will know and follow your passion

A life without a purpose is empty. When you love yourself you aren’t afraid to ask for more and get more. When you love yourself you are not afraid to seek your passion and live the life of your dreams. Self-love will open your eyes and give you the courage to dream more. Ask and you will receive!

How to find your passion and your purpose in life?

You get in life what you have the courage to ask for. – Oprah Winfrey

You will be open to receive and give love

Isn’t this the most important one? 😀
You can’t love others if you first don’t love yourself. I bet you hear this all the time and deep down you know it’s true.

Many people don’t understand that they are wonderful, they are precious, they deserve wealth, happiness and all the love in this world. That is why it is very important to learn and work on self – development, and self – growth constantly.

When you start loving yourself, you open to receive, but also to give love. And this receiving and giving love is the best thing in the whole World. So prepare to love and be loved.

Where there is love, there is life. – Mahatma Gandhi


You become a better person

And the most important reasons to love yourself is the last one. You become a better person when you start loving yourself. And who doesn’t want to be better? Self-development is a long journey and one of the most important things is developing self-love and self-esteem in order to be happy and live the life you deserve.

Be creative and find more ways to show yourself some love. A person who love themself is usually happy and fulfilled. I really hope that people will stop misunderstand self-love with arrogance, egotism, and selfishness. You are not selfish for loving yourself!

The Art Of Self-Dates

Who says that a date has to be with two people? You can always have a self-date and enjoy more than to go out on a date with the wrong person. Self-dates are really useful if you are single, but also in a relationship and marriage. People often forget to do beautiful things and buy beautiful presents for themselves. In order to practice self-love and to enjoy love, I picked several ideas that I personally find them interesting and relaxing.

Be creative and make your own list of self-dates. These are some that I would love to do.

Self-dates are very important to improve your self-esteem, to have greater life satisfaction and to improve your mental health in general. Use self-love as a foundation to live happier life and to achieve personal development.

Today is the day to love yourself with no expectation! – Louise Hay

Tea or coffee – if you are like me, then you must enjoy a cup of coffee or herbal tea. I love to experiment with flavors and I always make tea while I work. Choose your best coffee shop, take one to go and sit in the park, or just stay at home and enjoy your favorite coffee. If you decide to stay at home, as I usually do, make sure you serve your tea or coffee in your favorite mug. This is the one I use, but I bet you already have one in your pantry.

Book – books are my favorite way to show myself some love. As a teenager, I used to read novels, but now I tend to read more educational books, for personal development. I don’t want to waste time, and there is nothing more important than education and love. There are so many books I would recommend you and I just can’t pick one. At the moment I read one chapter before bed and that is usually at least 2 books monthly. The next book on my list is Becoming from Michele Obama.

Sweet dessert – buy or make yourself a sweet, delicious dessert. You don’t need a company to enjoy a great dessert and just relax.

Dinner – make yourself dinner. Your favorite one without counting calories and healthy fats. Just enjoy the process of making the dish. You can experiment and try some new, exotic recipes you’ve never tried before. Just don’t forget to take pictures. 🙂

Shopping – I love giving presents, but I also love receiving them. But why don’t you buy yourself a present? Something you really love and would make you feel better. Spend your money on yourself!

Bath – take a bubble bath and enjoy!

Pedicure and manicure – don’t forget to take care for your outer beauty. Have a little pumper routine at least twice a month.

Exercise – great self-date. Go on one aerobic, fitness or dance class. Maybe you will start a new hobby. Why waste time on dates with the wrong people when you can invest in yourself?

Movie night – Yes! Netflix! Don’t forget the popcorns. 🙂

Picnic – I love nature and I think it’s a great idea to spend some time on the sun with yourself.

Watch the sunset – and also you can watch the sunset. It is so romantic and relaxing.

Make a vision board – take some old magazines or use Pinterest to make a digital one. It is so fun activity and be careful what you wish for. 😉

Meditate – find online lead meditations and spend some quality time. You will feel very relaxed afterward.

Book a massage – or some beauty treatment of your choice.

These are my ideas of a great date, but I am sure you already have an idea what to do. The most important thing is to always love yourself!

Stay Positive!

Important Reasons to LOVE YOURSELF and The Importance of self-dates. Why self-dates are so important for your personal growth and development?

You are pregnant! Congratulations mamma!

It doesn’t matter if you are in your first, second or third trimester, I know that you just can’t wait to meet your baby. Pregnancy is like a roller-coaster, and the good news is that every pregnancy is different. It doesn’t matter if you are having a girl or a boy. Or twins! 🙂

With my first pregnancy, I did a lot of mistakes, mainly because I didn’t read and educate enough. But you know how they say, you have to make a mistake in order to learn from your own experience.

I promised myself that I will be totally prepared for my second pregnancy and in order to do that I made this list. It is a very long list and I hope I didn’t forget something. Let me know in the comments below if you have more ideas and tips to do before baby arrives.

You are probably thinking that there is not much to do, but it is very easy to overlook a few things.

This post is something I wish I had read before I had my baby.

What To Expect In The First Trimester
What To Expect In The Second Trimester
What To Expect In The Third Trimester

Why to DO these things?

When I was pregnant, no one told me that the first two months would be so hard and exhausting. I didn’t sleep, I couldn’t sit (because of the episiotomy), I couldn’t use the bathroom, I was exhausted and trying to adapt and learn to breastfeed, with painful mastitis (twice). Because I was so overwhelmed and also my beautiful baby boy is not that good sleeper, I really wish I had read these things before I had him.

I don’t want to scare you, only to prepare you.

I changed so much after having my baby, and these things are those that came in mind to share with you. Of course there are more, and I would love to see some in the comments.

I wish you all the best!

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What to do before your baby arrives? 90 things on your TO DO list while you are still pregnant. Have a stress free labor and fourth trimester.

Things to DO before your baby arrives 

One of the most important things to do before your baby arrives is deep clean the house. In order to do that, you should pay attention to several things. Before and after baby your life will change dramatically. Before baby I often used to leave my house a mess. With baby, my house is a mess but a clean one. I clean every day! A clean space is very important for a baby, especially for a newborn.

At the end of the pregnancy, there is one symptom that it is common and it’s called nesting. You will feel an urge to prepare for baby and clean the house. One thing to keep in mind is that when you have a baby you have to be careful about the products you use. There are many non-toxic cleaning products you can find, just make sure to have plenty of them or at least for the next few months.

Another very important thing is to clean your carpets. Carpets are one of the nastiest things in your house so please clean them well before your baby arrives. Or, buy new carpets and have peace of mind.
Don’t forget to clean your freezer well, and also buy a bigger one if your current one is small. I still have a small freezer and I think it is about time to change it.

You will spend some time in the car too so make sure to clean your car, especially the inside. Deep clean your car and install a car seat for the baby. You can’t leave the hospital without one.

Don’t forget to buy a diapers bin or some kind of a disposal system. Diapers can be really smelly and one of the best products you can have is a diaper bin. And you will use it at least the next 18 months.

Same as with the cleaning products, you should have a baby detergent and also a baby fabric softener (if you plan to use one). I would not recommend you to wash baby clothes with the same detergent you use for you. Some newborns can be very sensitive so bear in mind that if your baby is sensitive, you will need to wash your clothes with baby products too.

Don’t forget to wash baby clothes and also iron them (at least in the beginning). I don’t iron all of them anymore, but in the beginning, I did that. One of my greatest memories is when I was holding those little clothes in my hands. I still remember the smell. I was so excited to meet my baby boy.

Also, don’t forget to buy soft baby blankets and wash them too. Find practical baby clothes. I know that you are all excited and would love to dress your newborn like a superstar, but hey, your baby will sleep, eat and poop. Yes…only that. Oh, and CRY. 🙂 Find some that are very easy to use, without too many buttons and I would recommend you to use only cotton materials.

It is very important to prepare yourself too for the first few months. Find postpartum clothes for you, bigger and comfortable. If you plan to breastfeed then have some breastfeeding clothes too. I have breastfeeding T-shirt, pajamas, a shirt, and a dress. Don’t forget a breastfeeding bra.
You will also need postpartum panties, and this is something you should include in your hospital bag. But something I don’t want to forget the second time is to buy bigger underwear. Big underwear will make you feel comfortable. You won’t have time once the baby arrives so prepare now. Also, don’t forget to take big cotton pads.

Also, pick a go home clothes for you and your baby. This was so exciting. When you leave the hospital, make sure to wear something comfortable but also cute so you can take pictures for Welcome Home Baby.

Set the nursery for the baby. A separate room or sharing the same, it doesn’t matter, now is the time to prepare it. Buy a new baby mattress and set up the crib. Using a pillow is not recommend for the first year.

For the nursery, you will need blackout curtains (you will thank me later) and a white noise machine (or an app on your phone). Babies tend to sleep longer with white noise in the dark. Also, buy a baby lamp with dim light and get a nursing pillow if you plan to breastfeed.

Stock on baby essentials. You hear this a lot I know. And you may be wondering what are those. Well, every baby is different and I can’t really answer this question, but I am sure you are doing your research. Have at least 10 different baby clothes for a newborn (0-3 months). You will change your baby at least once or twice a day in the beginning. Diapers are definitely essential. I recommend using soft ones for sensitive skin. Also have creams and lotions, baby wet wipes, baby soap, and baby bath tub.
You will also need baby nail clippers and a baby comb.

If you plan to breastfeed your baby then I would recommend you to prepare while you are still pregnant. First, educate on the importance of breastfeeding. It is not something that comes naturally, at least it did not for me. Breastfeeding can be really hard, so educate now. There are great websites and blogs you can find but also you can attend a breastfeeding class. You will need a breast pump, check if it is covered by your health insurance, and also milk freezer bags. I use the Medela Harmony manual breast pump and Lansinoh milk freezer bags. I am very satisfied.


You will also need bottles. I didn’t use them a lot, but if you don’t breastfeed you will definitely need them.

This is the time when you need to organize everything. Make a place for the new baby, organize baby’s clothes and make some space.

Visit the hospital where you plan to give births and make a birth plan. Who do you want to be with you, natural, epidural, c-section? Pick emergency numbers just in case. Also, make sure to attend classes at your hospital. They are very helpful. Make a plan what to do when labor starts.

Something that is very useful is to learn about labor pain and contractions. The pain is natural but women tend to tell scary stories and to exaggerate. Look out for late pregnancy complications and also be prepared for the postpartum body. You must remember that you are beautiful and your body is magical. It makes a baby! Hey, you are growing a little human there.

Prepare your medicine cabinet for the first few weeks and stock up on hand sanitizer. Never forget to bye a hand sanitizer. This was a life-saving for the first few weeks for the family, but also the guests. We still keep one around. Your pregnancy is the time when you have so little energy, but it is time to work more. You won’t have this much time with a baby around.

While you are preparing for the baby to arrive, make sure to have some ME time. You are in charge for that time and believe me, when baby arrives you won’t have too much time for yourself. Prepare a self-care kit for the first few weeks and treat yourself.

This is the time for you and only you. Life after baby is beautiful but very different. Go out shopping with your friends or ALONE. Buy things for you and only you. Go out to eat with your husband or ALONE. Enjoy the meal alone! You can focus on the meal and don’t worry about a thing.

Wear earrings; drink hot coffee or tea; put the glass on the coffee table; arrive somewhere on time and lay down all day.

Read books. Real books. With a baby, it can be really hard to read a physical book. Now, I read only digital books and listen to audio books. Something I missed but I really wanted to do it is to have a pregnancy journal. But, I am so happy that my sister gave me a personalized baby book that I really love.

Don’t forget to plan a birth announcement. Who and how do you plan to announce the birth of your baby. Look for some baby poses and plan for newborn photos, but also take more maternity photos.

Finish any house projects before the baby arrives. Painting the walls, new closet, changing the carpets, changing the windows, etc. Make sure to be ready on time. Check for any issues you may have. We had a problem with the windows and I am so happy we moved out from that apartment.

Also, this is a time for you and your hubby to enjoy. Watch movies and your favorite TV shows. When the baby arrives, you will watch cartoons. 🙂
Go on a date night with him. There won’t be any for some time and make sure to enjoy them now.

Go on a babymoon where you can make daddy feel special. Before baby arrives, discuss important decisions such as vaccines and also, don’t forget to decide should you bank your baby’s umbilical cord blood.

It is about time to pick a name. If you know the gender then it is easier, but make a list and decide before the baby is here. Also, download a baby application. It will be very useful for the first few months because there are so many things that only an app can remember. You will be in shock for the first few weeks and a baby app can help you understand everything. I didn’t even know that there is some condition such as baby blues, but I found it on the baby app.

SLEEP! I don’t want to scare you, but something I really miss, and maybe the only thing that I miss is a good night sleep. So, sleep now and relax as much as you can. Sleep deprivation is yet to come.

In order to have more time to sleep with a newborn, instead of cooking while the baby is asleep, prepare freezer meals now for the first few weeks. Also, make and freeze lactation cookies, you can find wonderful recipes online. Breastfeeding and sleep deprivation will increase your appetite so make sure you stock healthy snacks. You won’t be so excited to cook, believe me, so make a good meal plan for the first month or so and find a grocery delivery service.

It is best to pick a pediatrician for the baby now. Find a good one and make sure it is close to your home. Also, learn how to take care for a newborn, and it is always better to consult a pediatrician.

DON’T FORGET to find help for the first 2-3 weeks. This is very important and you will need help, believe me. Also, make plan B and plan C just in case. Everything is possible so plan B and C are here and you won’t be stressed if something incidental happens.

Also, make a plan to save money. Babies are expensive and it is never too early to think about the future.

Dear mama, make sure to take care of yourself and to practice self-love. Don’t forget to be the best role model for your child. Day by day, prepare for a new role in your life – mother.

Have a baby shower, and pack your hospital bag in time.

Now relax, and make your own list. Is there something else you need to do before baby arrives? And did I mention that it is the time for you to sleep and lay down all day? 😀

These are 90 things to do before your baby arrives but I am sure there are many more. With all these information, I really hope you will be much more prepared for everything and you won’t be too much stressed. Wishing you all the best!

Stay Positive!

Here is a check list for you, just in case you forget something! Good Luck and have the best fourth trimester ever!

What to do before your baby arrives? 90 things on your TO DO list while you are still pregnant. Have a stress free labor and fourth trimester.
What to do before your baby arrives? 90 things on your TO DO list while you are still pregnant. Have a stress free labor and fourth trimester. What to do before your baby arrives? 90 things on your TO DO list while you are still pregnant. Have a stress free labor and fourth trimester.

If you are here, then you already know how important self-love is in our lives. It is about time for all of us to start practicing self-care more and to teach our children to love themselves too.

Before I start with this post I recommend you to read Why It Is So Hard To Love Yourself where you can find the most common reasons why people lose self – confidence and self – love.

Instead of enjoying life and loving ourselves, we live our lives for someone else – because there is someone who loves us (parents, a partner or children). We should do things for ourselves.

This is the only way to stop the chain now, become good role models and learn our children to love themselves and live their best lives.

You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself first. And there is no happiness and life without love.

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What is self-love and 9 powerful ways to practice self-love and boost your self-esteem. Self-love is one of the most important steps in personal development

Where there is love, there is life. – Mahatma Gandhi

Always remember that loving yourself is not the same as being selfish, arrogant, egotistical, etc.

Many people don’t understand that they are wonderful, they are precious, they deserve wealth, happiness and all the love in this world. That is why it is very important to learn and work on self – development, and self – growth constantly.

It is easier for you to acknowledge and list your faults and bad aspects than the good ones but it is about time to change that.

You are wonderful! Deep inside, you know how to love yourself, but here is a reminder for you.

Remember that this is not something that will happen overnight.

Self – development is a process and I encourage you to enjoy this journey.

There will be many obstacles but don’t be afraid. Always remind yourself that you are most important and there is no one that you should love more than you! You are not selfish and if people around you call you selfish – they don’t love themselves either and they are selfish (because they expect something from you).

Every wise man will tell you that self – love is very important. Every fool will tell you that self – love is bad and that loving yourself is selfish.

The World and media are full of information on how to practice self-care and the importance of it. But, not every one of us reaches to found out and practicing self-care is just not enough for developing self-love and confidence.

OK. You accept the challenge to love yourself but what now? How will you accomplish that? I found this very interesting. I have no idea how to love myself.

What is self-love and 9 powerful ways to practice self-love and boost your self-esteem. Self-love is one of the most important steps in personal development

How to fall in love with yourself?

Let’s play a game together. So, think of 10 people you like and admire right now. The first 10 people that you can think of.

Are they beautiful? Yes, No, Maybe.
Are they very smart? Yes, No, Maybe.

Do they have all the perfect traits?

OK. Now think of one person who is perfect. Only one. This should be easy.

Perfection: the state of being complete and correct in every way.  

It is time to move away from perfectionism and start to move towards happiness.

Accept yourself 

The first step toward change is acceptance. The second is awareness. Read more here how to accept yourself and be aware. We can’t change our lives if we don’t accept them the way they are in this present moment. 

If you read this post then there is a good chance you already passed this step and you are aware that something is wrong and it is time to change your life in order to love yourself. Try this exercise.

Write down at least 10 negative things that you are aware of. For an example:

I have sensitive skin prone to acne, I have 10 kg plus, I have cellulitis, I have crooked teeth, I easily lose my energy, etc.

Was this hard for you to do? It usually is much easier to write down the negative aspects that the positive ones in people that don’t love themselves enough.

So now, write down the same sentences but with “I accept and don’t mind that” in the beginning.

I accept and don’t mind that I have sensitive skin.
I accept and don’t mind that I have 10 kg plus.

Remember these sentences and repeat them every day, until you feel that you really accept and don’t care. This can take 2 days, or 2 months. It depends. We are all different and there is no one fit for all of us so don’t feel bad if these sentences don’t sound real to you right away.

I still struggle myself with some of my negative aspects, but I accept that and I know that I will figure it out soon.

Self -love is not possible if you first don’t forgive yourself.
Read more How To Forgive Yourself And Live The Life You Deserve.

Use self – love affirmations

I love you______(put your name here). I did the best I can and I am the best version of myself in this present moment.

Everything happens for a reason. I accept myself as I am, I accept myself and love myself, I don’t need other people to tell me that they love me.

I love myself and that is enough. Yes! I love myself as I am.

I am not my mistakes and I choose to be happy! Today I am love, I share love and I love myself!

Self-love affirmations are something that can change your whole life. While I was in high school, my mom used to write down inspirational quotes and send to me every week. I remember once she gave me a script from Louise Hay with a few chapters about psychosomatic illnesses. I decided to study psychology because of the book that I later bought.

Love Yourself, Heal Your Life by Louise Hay is my all time favorite book. It is not a book that you will read only once. No, no! It is special. You will read it again and again. Louise Hay is a legend, I respect her and love so much. She is one of the people I admire most.

Love Youself, Heal your Life workbook
Love Yourself, Heal Your Life Workbook

If you are creative you can make DIY cards with affirmations and use them every morning for motivation and self-love.
You can find everything on Amazon now, I really like these 64 self-love cards with powerful affirmations and uplifting messages.

Powerful affirmations for self-love
Powerful affirmations for self-love

Surround yourself with positive and loving people

If you want to practice self-love one of the most important things to bear in mind is that your surrounding is very important. You can’t have a negative mind and positive life. Or, you can’t be surrounded by negative people and expect to be positive and happy. This is something I learned the hard way.

You can read books, motivate yourself, educate, practice self-care and do every step you can, but if you are surrounded by negative people that doesn’t love themselves, you will stay negative.

You deserve to be loved and surrounded by positive people that have faith in you and respect you!

When you have friends that love themselves they will remind you to be better and to take care for yourself. Positive mind – positive life. I used to spend hours of empty talks with my friends, crying and self-sabotaging.

But I finally realized that time is precious.

But what if all my friends are negative?

This is very possible. Although, we all have our moments in life, so if one person is negative now, doesn’t necessarily mean that he will be in the future and vice versa.

If all of your friends are negative at the moment, don’t feel bad to be alone. Being alone is the best thing that can happen to you because you won’t waste your time anymore.

Read blogs, read books, listen to motivational speakers, listen to audio books. Find several people who you admire and drink your coffee with them (while reading their books or listening to them).

This is something I still practice. I don’t always want to go out with friends so I stay at home and read. After this I feel motivated and fresh.

Some people can change your life so don’t be afraid to find them. You are wonderful and you deserve to be around wonderful people.

You don’t need those who don’t respect you. And positive people will come around soon. You are enough!

When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive. – Paulo Coelho

Set Boundaries – Learn To Say No

Something very common for people with low self-esteem is that they don’t know how to set boundaries and say No. Why setting boundaries is very important and how to do that is not a simple process.

Setting boundaries and saying NO are two different things and I think that all people should educate more on this topic.

Why do you think that saying NO is a bad thing? You are not selfish and a bad person if you say NO to something you don’t want to do. It is hypocritical.

But setting boundaries is not something you can learn and develop in one paragraph. If you are interested in how to do that, one way is to visit a therapist. A therapist will help you to develop good boundaries.
One book I really recommend is the New York Times Bestseller – Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend.

Boundaries 
WHEN TO SAY YES
HOW TO SAY NO
Boundaries
WHEN TO SAY YES
HOW TO SAY NO

Celebrate everything

Something I really still can’t understand is why people pay more respect to a funeral than to a birthday. If you know please leave a comment down below. This is a question I would love to research and change.

People often forget to pay respect to the people that have accomplished a lot of things in their life. Their story is “trending” only when they leave this world. For me, this is really sad. Why did I mention this?

I want you to encourage you to celebrate everything in life. Start with your life, then spread the love. There is nothing more beautiful than celebrating and pure love.

Treat yourself for every little thing you accomplish. When you pay respect to everything, life will respect you. You don’t believe in it? Try it!

Why celebrating everything will make you love yourself?

Very often people don’t even recognize, nor are aware that they work so hard, they are wonderful, and they have accomplished so much. When you are on a self-love journey, you will have to pay attention to every little success.

Everything is a success. Celebrate every little success and reward yourself. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself. Go out and buy new clothes for you. Many researches claim that what we wear is very important for our state of mind. Clothes affect our mood and emotions so bear that in mind.

After a while, celebrating every little success will become a habit and you will send signals to your brain “I am successful”. Also, you will be motivated and encouraged to be better and to love yourself more.

You are successful! And it is time to get used to it.

Start a journal

Start a journal with your positive aspects. Write down every day or week (if you can’t be consistent to do it daily) your positive traits, every little success, positive emotions, great things that happened that day, things you are grateful, etc. In this journal try to focus only on positive things. Positive mind – positive life. When you write down things are more true and powerful. As a great exercise is to write down every day one self-love affirmation. Writing a diary and a happy journal is a great way to focus on positivity and to change your mindset.

There are plenty of workbooks and journals online and If you are a more visual person and would like to have a fancy journal I recommend you this Self – Love Workbook. It is a guide to boost your self-esteem and find happiness. I really like it.

How to practice self-love and boost self-esteem
The Self-love Workbook

Practice self – care 

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg


There are two kinds of self-care, one is for the soul and mind, and the second one is for the body. In order to love yourself, you should practice both.

Clear the body – clear the mind. Nourish yourself and never avoid self-care in order to save money. There are hundreds of ways to practice self-care for free or with little money. Self-care is always a natural remedy for treating so many conditions such as anxiety, depression, and stress.

Take care for yourself the same way you take care of others. I realized that I don’t care about myself enough when I became a mother. Before I had my baby, I didn’t care if my mattress was clean and of good quality, I didn’t care if my clothes material is cotton, if my skin care is breastfeeding safe, if I consume enough vitamins and minerals, etc.

I am so thankful my baby taught me to love myself more.

Schedule a pamper routine every week and enjoy it. But please, bear in mind that self – care isn’t just taking a bath, putting on lotion, putting on a face mask, shaving and lighting a candle.

Self – care is at least 8 hours of good night sleep, mindful eating, exercising or walking, relaxation techniques, and much more.

What will a person that loves himself do at this moment? This is the question I ask myself when I don’t know what to do.

Educate yourself

Do I really need to explain why this step? Why waste my time and watch Netflix, when I can watch educational videos, motivational speeches, how to____ videos, or read great books. If you want to open a business instead of watching the new episode of your favorite TV Show, google how to open a business. If you want to be happy, google how to be happy. 😀

It is simple. I am all about fun activities, but I also think that education can be very fun if you find a way to implement it in your daily routine. People that love themselves are always eager to learn new things and to grow. You will learn to love yourself and be a better person through education.

Never forget the importance of education. We are so happy that we can choose what to learn these days. We can choose to educate on how to love ourselves. How to be happy!

When you will surround yourself with positive people, you will educate together and share books, experiences and beliefs.

Visit a therapist

You only live once so live the best life you can.  If you did everything and you are still not feeling like loving yourself, please consult with a therapist. The best thing you can do in order to practice self-love is to find a therapist for your soul. I am sure you will feel much better and a therapist will help you to create a life you deserve and want. A therapist will help you to discover various ways to practice self-love.

Stay Positive and Love Yourself!

What is self-love and 9 powerful ways to practice self-love and boost your self-esteem. Self-love is one of the most important steps in personal development

Next month is Valentines Day and “love is in the air”, so I think answering the question “why it is so hard to love yourself” it is a great idea for a new post. This year I want to write more about motivation, self-care, self-love, and self-development, so this is the question that came on my mind and I think is the perfect time for it.

To be honest with you, this was something very hard for me to overcome in my life, but I finally feel ready to share with you some stories and try to answer you this common question.

First of all, before I start with this post I want you to know that I believe that every one of us is special and we are all different in so many ways. There is no one fit for everyone and not every reason is true for every one of us. So please bear in mind that these may not be true for you.

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Why it's so hard to love yourself and how to finally start loving yourself and live the life you deserve?

Parenting style

Every parent has a different parenting style but some things are common for most of them. Right and wrong are constantly changing and two generations before us, parenting wasn’t the same as today. The world is developing so as parenting. Nowadays, most parents are eager to learn how to be better. This is the era of personal development and awareness so I am very glad I live now.

But although many things are different than before, some things are the same. If you are a good kid, mama loves you. If you do something that mama don’t approve, you are a bad kid and mama and papa won’t love you anymore.

Kids are afraid of losing the love of their parents and while this is totally normal for parents to do in order to teach their baby and kid how to live, there is a possibility that kid to think that it is not loved and good enough if do or love something that is not “allowed” by his parents, friends, society, etc.

Right and wrong

Good and bad change. Right and wrong change. What is right in this present moment doesn’t necessarily mean it would be right in the future. The most important people in history were different. They were innovators and didn’t care about others.

They believed in themselves and didn’t need approval in order to be accepted and loved by others. Well, they knew some secret I guess. 🙂

Everyone is against selfishness and egoism and I am afraid to show myself some love in order to look modest. Is this familiar with you? How thin is the line between selfishness and self-love? Very often people mistake these things. Self – love is somehow “bad”.

Is it better to love yourself more and to think that you are better than you really are, or to be a great person and to think that you are not.”

But in my society people that are self-confident are seen as bad. I feel sorry when I meet someone great with low self – confidence.

Modesty is in fashion! I am not against modesty. I think that it is very important to be satisfied with what you have. But I also think that it is great to want more. When we want more, we are eager to learn and to grow. There is no development without a desire.

I think that many people think that they are not modest and selfish if they want more, so they develop a bad image for themselves. It is time to break those believes that self-love is bad.

Self Love Conception

This is a book I read in my first year in University that totally changed my perception of love, The Art Of Loving by Erick Fromm. Erich Fromm was a social psychologist and humanistic philosopher. In this book, he explained love in details and how we develop the skill to love.

The Art Of Loving by Erich Fromm - Learn How to love yourself 
You can't love another if you first don't love yourself
The Art of Loving – Erich Fromm

In this book, he presents 4 basic love elements: care, responsibility, respect and knowledge. According to Fromm, loving oneself is not the same as selfish, egotistical or arrogant. Loving oneself is actually caring for ourselves, taking responsibility about ourselves, respecting ourselves and knowing ourselves.

I recommend you to read this book in order to learn more about love, unconditional love, and self-love.

Expectations

In this world we are living, there are so many expectations and I think that this is one very big problem for the whole society. People always compare with others. Body, clothes, job, kids, income, house, cars, social status, followers, likes, views, votes…

We overdosed with all those expectations that we forget that the most important things are happiness and peace. Those same expectations are one of the reasons why we don’t love ourselves.

We “have” to have certain needs in order to be and feel lovable. So for example, I wasn’t feeling lovable in the past because I was overweight. Classmates were often bulling me. They called me Piggy in high school. I simply couldn’t love my body because someone else was telling me it is not beautiful.

There were other overweight girls too that felt great in their body and I couldn’t understand them. Now I do. 🙂

I know many students that had very low self – confidence because their grades were low.

Hello! Einstein was a bad student and he was a genius!

Nobody is perfect, but everyone deserves to be loved. You deserve to love yourself! And don’t expect to be loved if you first don’t love yourself!

Forgiveness    

In my post How To Forgive Yourself, I explained in details the steps you need to take in order to forgive yourself and live the life you deserve. Yes. You deserve to be happy and live in peace. There is a thin line between forgiving yourself and loving yourself. In order to love yourself, you need to forgive yourself. Can you love someone and be mad at him at the same time?

Probably yes, but is that really love? Think about it!
If the first step toward change is awareness, then the second is acceptance. And did you accept if you didn’t forgive yourself? No! Acceptance is forgiveness.

Your past is not important. The only thing that is important is what kind of a person your past made you.

You are not what you did in your past. Remember that you did what you thought was best at that time. But sometimes it is very hard to accept everything and forgive. I know that I’ve been there. If you are stuck then I recommend you to check How To Forgive Yourself.


Unconditional Love

Do you love yourself unconditionally? I didn’t know the meaning of unconditional love until I met my baby boy. But I wish I did many years ago. My baby taught me how to love myself unconditionally and to accept myself, my soul, my feelings, my thoughts, and my body.

In order to do this, you first must accept yourself. You can learn more about unconditional love in the book I recommended by Erick Fromm – The art of loving. Don’t forget that self – development is something that requires energy, knowledge, strength, and time.

Why don’t we love ourselves unconditionally? I think that the roots are in our childhood. We set high standards, goals, and expectation, but forget to remind ourselves that we are good enough without them. Parents with low self – confidence can’t teach their children to love themselves. They are not a good role model. Stop the circle now!

Bad events

Almost everybody experience at least one bad event that could make them feel bad about themselves. I can never forget my history teacher in elementary school. She was a monster! I had fever and couldn’t sleep three days from crying and so much stress. She was yelling at me in front of the class for no particular reason and I was so stressed that I started shaking.

I tried to defend myself but I couldn’t. She was very loud. From that day on, I never ever wanted to speak in front of other people, I was so scared to give my opinion and to raise my hand and participate in school.

Who are your friends?

Are you surrounded by positive friends that have faith in you and respect you? When I was surrounded with friends with low self – confidence that doesn’t love themselves I didn’t love myself either. Why? They didn’t respect me, they didn’t have faith in me and they didn’t want me to be better and successful.

When people around you are negative, you become negative too. We are not meant to be lonely and alone in this world. The problem is when you don’t love yourself you don’t have the courage to search for people that love you and respect you. People that have the same values as you.

How to love yourself?

So these are some of the most common reasons people lose self – confidence and self – love. Of course, there are always more reasons and I did mention in the beginning that we are all different and special. We all have special goals, needs, and paths.

You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself first. And there is no happiness and life without love. Remember, loving yourself is not the same as selfish, arrogant, egotistical, etc.

Many people don’t understand that they are wonderful, they are precious, they deserve wealth and happiness. That is why it is very important to learn and work on self – development and growth.

It is easier for you to acknowledge and list your faults and bad aspects than the good ones. You are wonderful! Deep inside, you know how to love yourself, but here is a reminder for you. Remember that this is not something that will happen overnight. Self – development is a process and I encourage you to enjoy this journey.

There will be many obstacles but don’t be afraid. Always remind yourself that you are most important and there is no one that you should love more than you! You are not selfish and if people around you call you selfish – they don’t love themselves either and they are the one that are selfish (because they expect something from you). Every wise man will tell you that self – love is very important. Every fool will tell you that self – love is bad.

You can change yourself and be happy! Just remember that YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.

Accept yourself 

The first step toward change is acceptance. The second is awareness. Read more here how to accept yourself and be aware.

When you are aware of things and accept how they are – you will have the power to change them! When you take the responsibility in your hand you can change everything.

We can’t change our lives if we don’t accept them the way they are in this present moment. 

Forgive yourself

Why is important to forgive yourself in order to go on with your life? Read more here about forgiveness and living the life you deserve. You are not what you did in your past. Remember that you did what you thought was best at that time.

Use self – love affirmations

I love you______(put your name here). I did the best I can and I am the best version of myself in this present moment.

Everything happens for a reason. I accept myself as I am, I accept myself and love myself, I don’t need other people to tell me that they love me.

I love myself and that is enough. Yes! I love myself as I am.

I am not my mistakes and I choose to be happy! Today I am love, I share love and I love myself!

Surround yourself with positive and loving people

You deserve to be loved and surrounded by positive people that have faith in you and respect you!

Celebrate every success 

Everything is a success. Celebrate every little success and reward yourself. Smile!

Visit a therapist

You only live once so live the best life you can.  If you did everything and you are still not feeling well, please consult with a therapist. I am sure you will feel much better and a therapist will help you to create a life you deserve and want.

For more questions feel free to contact me.

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Why it is so hard to love yourself and how to finally start loving yourself and live the life you deserve

When I am in a rush I always tend to cook eggs. There are a lots of recipes that include eggs and I would love to share with you some of my favorite egg recipes that are very fast and easy to make, and what is most important, they are tasty and delicious.

If you are a mom then there is a good chance you run out of ideas what to cook for breakfast. We all hear that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Yes, I do agree with that. But I do agree that most of the time I have no idea what to cook or I am so over the same thing on and on again.

The first reason I started writing this post is that I needed a reminder with several breakfast recipes for me and my family.  I realized that most of the recipes on my list include eggs and I came up with the idea to make a post about easy and fast egg breakfast ideas.

Also, I can easily include these recipes in weight loss diet because they don’t have too many calories. Indeed, they are low in calorie and high in protein.

3 TOP REASONS why you should eat eggs!

1. Eggs are very nutritious, they contain the highest biological value for protein, vitamin B, vitamin D, selenium, iron, zinc, folic acid, etc. 

2. They are low in calories – isn’t this the perfect food for a diet? Yes, eggs can help you lose weight. They are low in calorie but they will keep you full for a long time. One medium egg has only 70 kcal.

3. They are high in protein – they provide the best quality protein that our bodies use to build new tissue. One egg contains 6 grams of high quality protein.

I have an obsession with eggs so these eggs recipes are one of the favorites that I love to make for breakfast, but they are perfect for lunch and dinner too.

Egg Frittata

Ingredients:

  • 6 eggs
  • 200 ml milk
  • 150 g hard goat cheese
  • 250 g mixed vegetables by your choice (carrot, corn, peas, spinach, potato, broccoli, leek, zucchini, pepper, spring onion, etc)
  • 20 g olives
  • Salt&Pepper
  • 1 Tbsp vegetable oil

Directions:

  1. Preheat the oven to 220ºC
  2. In a bowl mix the eggs, milk, salt and pepper, then add the vegetables and olives. Crush the goat cheese and add it to the mixture
  3. Grease a pan or a muffin tin with a vegetable oil. Pour the mixture (two thirds full in a muffin tin)
  4. Bake for 25 minutes or until the frittata is fully baked (insert toothpick or a small knife in the middle to check).

You can serve the frittata with wholewheat bread and yogurt for a whole meal. This recipe is very practical for taking it to work or for packing it to the children for school meal.

You can experiment with the quantity ratios between the eggs and the vegetables, so depending on your preferences you can put or less vegetables. However this recipe makes a perfect meal full of protein, fiber, vitamins and minerals.

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Pancakes 

Ingredients:

  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup rolled oatmeal
  • 1 ripe banana (mashed)
  • 1 tsp vegetable oil
  • Honey (optional)
  • Fruit by choice

Directions:

  1. In a bowl whisk the egg with a fork, add the rolled oats and mashed banana and mix well. Also you can put everything in a blender if you want smoother batter
  2. Heat a frying pan over medium heat with a little bit of vegetable oil to prevent sticking
  3. Fry spoonfuls of the batter until golden brown on both sides
  4. Serve the pancakes with honey, or other sweetener by your choice and with lots of fruit.

There are million pancake recipes, but this is the one if you are on a weight loss journey, or if you want to eat healthily. This recipe is very popular and simple and it doesn’t require much ingredients, or time to prepare it.

Cottage Cheese With Eggs

Ingredients:

  • 3 eggs
  • 170 g cottage cheese
  • 1 tsp vegetable oil
  • Salt&Pepper

Directions:

  1. Beat the eggs with a fork in a bowl
  2. Add salt, pepper or other spices by your choice
  3. Add the cottage cheese and mix well
  4. Heat a frying pan over medium heat with a little bit of vegetable oil
  5. Add the mixture in the pan and continuously mix it with a spoon
  6. After the liquid is evaporated remove the pan from the heat and serve.

Serve this tasty and very easy to make dish with tomato, wholewheat bread and yogurt.

Summer Egg Stew

Ingredients:

  • 1 onion
  • 3 medium tomatoes
  • 3 green peppers
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 clove garlic
  • 1 tsp vegetable oil
  • Salt&Pepper

Directions:

  1. Cut onion, tomatoes, garlic and pepper
  2. Heat a frying pan over medium heat with a little bit of vegetable oil
  3. Add the onion and fry until it’s soft. Add the other vegetables and cook until the water from the tomatoes is evaporated
  4. Whisk the eggs with a fork in a bowl with a little bit of salt and pepper and add them in the vegetable mixture. Stir with a spoon until the eggs are fully cooked.

This is a great dish for the summer days, when there are tons of fresh and ripe tomatoes. Serve this summer stew with piece of white cheese and wholewheat bread.

Omelet

Ingredients:

  • 3 eggs
  • 100 g cheese (any type you like)
  • 1 tsp vegetable oil/butter

Directions:

  • In a bowl whisk the eggs with a fork and add salt and pepper to taste
  • Heat a frying pan with a little bit of vegetable oil or butter on a medium heat. Add the whisked eggs and let it cook
  • When the top surface of eggs is thickened and no visible liquid egg remains, add grated cheese by your choice. You can also add filling by your choice (spinach, bacon, olives, tomatoes, spring onion, mushrooms, etc)
  • Fold the omelet in half with turner and slide it on a serving plate.

I usually make the omelet only with white hard cheese and serve it with fresh vegetables after it’s cooked (tomato, cucumber, radish, parsley, etc).

Easy Egg Recipes

Hard-Cooked Eggs

Place the eggs in a large saucepan with water and bring to boil over a high heat. Remove the pan from the heat, cover it and let it sit around 10 minutes. Drain water and place the eggs under cool running water. Peel the eggs and serve them. You can serve them with vegetables, cheese, bacon, bread etc. I usually put them in salads, boiled potatoes, sandwiches, pasta, serve them as deviled eggs, etc.

Hard boiled eggs in the shell can last in the fridge up to one week. That’s why I boil more eggs and whenever I’m in hurry I can use the eggs for a quick meal.

Scrambled eggs

Ingredients:

  • 3 Eggs
  • ¼ cup Milk
  • 1tsp vegetable oil/butter
  • Salt&Pepper

Directions:

  • Whisk the eggs in a bowl and add the milk, salt, and pepper and mix
  • Heat vegetable oil or butter in a pan over medium heat and pour in the egg mixture. Let it sit until the very edges look like they are about to set, then stir using a spoon or spatula until soft curds form
  • Cook until eggs are thickened and no visible liquid egg remains, but the eggs are not too dry.

This is a very simple recipe, and it can have many different variations, depending on your taste. I always eat scrambled eggs with wholewheat bread, fresh vegetables and cheese or yogurt.

Fried Eggs

First, start with a hot nonstick skillet on medium heat. Put vegetable oil or butter. Crack the eggs and pour them in the pan. Be careful with the yolk. Now, wait. The longer you cook the eggs, the harder the yolk will be, so if you want a medium yolk, cook for 3-5 minutes.  Season the eggs with salt to taste, serve with whatever food you please and your meal is done.

Bon Appétit

Easy egg recipes

These days I was reading one old book I love. It is a book that helped me a lot and I often tend to reread it. It is a book by Janette Rainwater – YOU ARE IN CHARGE! While I was reading some chapters the idea came to me that it is impossible to live a happy life and go on with your life if you are unable to forgive yourself first.

In this book Janette talks about two very important questions – What is happening right now – in this present moment? The second question is – What do I want in this new moment?

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To be precise she talks about awareness and put an accent on it. This is something every therapist will ask you. Every therapist knows how important awareness is. I recommend you to read The First Step Toward Change if you are on a journey of personal growth and development.

Also, check How To Live In The Present Moment if you want to find some mindfulness exercises.

I always ask myself these two questions. The first one brings me the awareness I need. What is happening in this present moment?

Something I noticed in myself and many clients, friends, or colleagues, is that one of the hardest things to do is to forgive themselves. And how can I except to grow and develop if I can’t forgive myself and go on with my life? How to be happy and positive if there is something in me that is not giving me a peace of mind.

Everyone makes mistakes, but why do we forget that when we are the “sinners”? When is the last time when you have forgiven someone or didn’t even judge him?

Why it is so much easier to forgive others?

Why it’s so much easier to forgive other people, but not yourself? You don’t have big expectations from others, but you do have from yourself. You expect to be perfect, to please others, to be a good person etc. Also, you were raised to have all those expectations and also to be “a good child”. If you don’t listen to your parents orders – they will be mad at you.

This “problem” has roots in childhood and it is perfectly fine.

How To Forgive Yourself

Why is important to forgive yourself in order to go on with your life?

If the first step toward change is awareness, then the second is acceptance. And did you accept if you didn’t forgive yourself? No! Acceptance is forgiveness.

Your past is not important. The only thing that is important is what kind of a person your past made you.

You are not what you did in your past. Remember that you did what you thought was best at that time.

When you are aware of things and accept how they are – you will have the power to change them! When you take the responsibility in your hand you can change everything.

Please don’t judge yourself! Judging won’t lead you anywhere. If I judged myself for my mistakes I wouldn’t rise and stand on my feet. Remember – we are doing the best we know at the moment. There is NO if I go back in time. There is NO what IF! Just be aware, accept and take responsibility.

When you take the responsibility you already have that second chance. Now is the time to be a better person and to forgive everyone. But first -yourself.

You are in charge

First thing you should remember is that you are in charge of your feelings and thoughts. You are in charge of your life and only you can make the decision to move on with your life and live the life you deserve. This is why I mentioned the book from Janette Rainwater. It is a great book to start the journey.

Eliminate the negative beliefs

If you are in charge of your life then you are the only one who can eliminate the negative beliefs in your life. No, you are not a bad person for making a mistake. One reason why religion is good is because it promotes forgiveness. Try to eliminate all the negative beliefs and every thought that stand between you and your dream life.

Remember that you are worthy and just like everyone else you make mistakes and learn from them. Your past is not important. The only thing that is important is what kind of a person your past made you.

Do the best you can in the moment

You always do the best you can in the present moment. You didn’t know better back then, but you do now. So make sure you do something about that. Do you want to live a happy life or do you want to be stuck in your past? Accept that you can’t go back in time, but you can be in charge of your future.

Acknowledge the mistake out loud

Acknowledge your mistake or mistakes if there is more than one that you can’t forgive. It is easier when you acknowledge your “mistakes”. Write them down. How did it happen? Why did it happen? Writing down what happened is a great thing you can do to be more objective and remember what happened. Even better, write from a third party. Identify the biggest mistakes.

Love yourself

Is there someone more important in this whole world than you? No! And if there is then something isn’t right. You are most important and bear in mind that you should always love yourself first before you love anyone else. We often forget to show some love and if you are on a self-growth journey then you must love yourself.

Check Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself

“I am worthy, loved, smart, gentle, beautiful, happy. “

Don’t forget to say to yourself all those things and many, many more.

Right and wrong change

In the past, people believed in many Gods. After a while, they started to believe in one. Then another one, and then another one. Every single one of us believes in something else. Magic rituals were right and good in the past, now are bad and wrong. Right and wrong change! Think deeper. Maybe after all, your mistake is not a mistake. If you can understand all those people believing in different things and thinking that they are “the right one” why not to forgive yourself and go on with your life. After all, it was the right thing at that moment.

What did you learn

What did you learn from your mistakes? If you are reading this post then you are already sorry and there must be something you learned from it. I will help you. You did learn not to make the same mistake again for sure. And there must be at least one more thing you learned from your mistake. A child learns to walk while falling and crawling and pulling. In order to start walking a child must make mistakes. Maybe you are not aware of what you already learned so give yourself some time to process. Write it down. Words have more meaning when written.

Seek professional help 

If you did every step and you still feel bad and can’t forgive yourself, please, seek professional help. Don’t hesitate. Don’t lose precious time. You only live once so live the best life you can. You will feel great and forgive yourself much easier.

Of course, there are more ways to forgive yourself and I believe that every person is different and have different needs, goals, and wishes. You can always find more ways to succeed and reach your goal no matter what. The most important thing is to forgive yourself and finally live the life you deserve.

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As I grew up I used to be so jealous of women who looked happy and satisfied. I couldn’t understand why I don’t like them, but very soon I realized it is because I would love to be one of them.

I wondered how they can radiate joy all the time and after some time I finally realized that all happy woman share some habits.

But first, relax.

It is impossible to be happy all the time because life brings us many different situations and some of them are painful. But these women are more happy and satisfied and if you wonder why then you are in the right place.

Although, there are always some exceptions of the rules.

Something I realized is that habits are things we learn and develop from birth and they are a very important tool in our lives. Babies develop habits for sleeping and eating and every parent can understand how important it is for a baby to have a consistent routine.

To be honest, I would love to develop all of these happy women habits, because I am impressed with every happy woman I meet.

I recently talked with you about The 7 Habit That Changed My Life After Becoming A Mother and while I was writing that post I get the idea that there is something in common with all those happy women.

And while I was trying to make a routine for me and my baby, I started implementing some of these habits and made my life happier and more fulfilled.

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Do you know someone who seems to be almost always happy and satisfied? I know several women and they all have these same habits. I hope you will implement at least some of them and make your life better.

If you are interested in learning more about developing habits and how to change your life with them I recommend you to read this wonderful book The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg, it is definitely life-changing.

Life can bring us hard times and it is not always possible to be happy but I do believe that with implementing some habits and hard work everyone can succeed in designing their dream life and the life they deserve.

They Know Their Value

This doesn’t sound like a habit but in real life it is. How? Well, to know your value you must analyze yourself. Happy women are aware of their traits, likes, and dislikes, but most importantly, they know their value. They are self-confident and manage to stay because from time to time they analyze everything. There is no comment that can lower their value and self-confidence because they are perfectly aware. This self-confidence is not temporary. This is the reality. They know they are good and they know that perfect doesn’t exist.

They have a mentor

They have a mentor and very often it is not only one! Yes, they are not perfect and they are not born with that self-confidence and great attitude they have at the moment. They are not born with that knowledge. And what is the big secret here? Where do they learn all those things?

Why do they have that knowledge and unbreakable self-love and confidence?

It is because they have a mentor. Their mom, sister, aunt, cousin, friend, teacher, father or any other role model in their life. OK, we are not all born under a lucky star and have someone who can be our mentor in our surrounding. Don’t panic!

I am so thankful there are so many mentors and great people out there who share with all of us their experience. One of my first mentors was Paulo Coelho. He gave me “his book of life” (and everyone who read his books). His quotes are always my favorite and they were “responsible” for many decisions I made in the past.

Read! Writers, especially motivational writers, and motivational speakers can teach you how to love yourself. They can be your mentor and lead you through life.

They practice mindfulness 

Happy women aren’t fat or too slim. They aren’t so anxious nor so calm. They are simply natural. Why? It is because they mastered mindfulness and living in the present moment. They practice mindful eating and recognize emotional eating. They are aware of the present moment and know that it is the only moment that exists.

To be mindful is to be happier, healthier, to have bigger self-esteem and to love your life and yourself with all your weaknesses.

They enjoy the present moment, they enjoy food, they enjoy their shower and act like it is their last one. When they dance – they dance! When they eat -they eat! If they cry – they cry!

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. – Omar Khayyam

They are aware of their emotions

Because they practice mindfulness they are aware of their emotions. But, many people are aware of their emotions too. What is the difference? Well, the difference here is that they are aware of and completely in peace with their emotions. They allow to grieve, to cry, to smile, to be angry.

They don’t try to hide their emotions and develop psychosomatic illnesses. To be sad is perfectly normal and people who don’t try to neglect negative emotions and accept them are more satisfied and aware.

Happy women know their emotions and their importance. They are aware that they can never escape from their heart! So follow your heart and you will follow happiness!

They set boundaries

Balance is the key to everything. What we do, think, say, eat, feel they all require awareness and through this awareness we can grow. – Koi Fresco

They analyze and are aware of their emotions, likes and dislikes so in order to be happy and live a balanced life they set good boundaries.

Setting boundaries are a very important tool for everyone who wants to live a happy life because you will never ever say YES if you don’t want to do something. You will also have a personal space and won’t let anyone disturb it to feel anxious, desperate, tired or stressed.

I mentioned several times that there are always some exceptions and these boundaries are not a constant. You will change them every now and then. For example, before becoming a mom, I loved to drink coffee with my friends several times a month and stay late at night. Now? NO! Coffee now lasts no more than an hour, and staying past 7 PM is a big NO for me.

You will also change your boundaries but the important thing that happy women have is that they set them. They never make things in order to be liked and accepted.

They practice self-care

The one thing you should never forget is to always take care of your body and soul. There are two kinds of self-care, one is for the soul and mind, and the second one is for the body. Why self-care is so important and everyone talks about it?

Well, ladies, why do you clean the house? Why do you clean the toilet and kitchen so often? A happy woman has a habit and always practice self-care. She is aware that the body is a mirror of the soul.

Clear the body – clear the mind. Nourish yourself and never avoid self-care in order to save money. There are hundreds of ways to practice self-care for free or with little money. Self-care is always a natural remedy for treating so many conditions such as anxiety, depression, and stress.

So happy woman also sleep well every night at least 8 hours and never forget to relax and take a few minutes to restart. Good sleep is essential for functioning. Read more about how to sleep better with anxiety here.

Check: Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself?

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

They plan everything

I implemented this habit in my life when my son was a few months old. I was a hot mess and planning everything was essential in order for me and the whole family to survive.

Keeping a list of things to do is the best thing that happened to me. Now I don’t need to remember. I don’t need to constantly remember dates and anniversaries, nor groceries or tasks. I write down everything now. Every idea I have, everything I want to learn and make.

I have several planners. But you really only need one piece of paper for it. I have a planner on my phone and also use Trello app. There are several free applications which you can download and organize your life or just choose to use a pen and paper.

When you plan you don’t forget and happy women know this. They are not obsessed with remembering important deadlines and numbers.

Also, they focus on other things and have a good plan for everything in their life. So they know which day is for self-care, which one is for family and friends, etc. Being organized is not living in your comfort zone. Being organized is living wise.

There is a trend now, time blocking, and I truly believe that it is a good one. But find a way which is best for you and start to organize everything.

They practice positive thinking and gratitude  

As I have mentioned before, happy women are perfectly aware of their emotions – good or bad. They are completely in peace with their emotions and allow themselves to grieve, to cry, to smile, to be angry.

They don’t try to hide their emotions nor act as nothing happened. But they do practice positive thinking.

Instead of focusing on the things that are bad and they simply can’t do anything right now, they focus on the great things and every positive aspect of their lives. This brings them to practicing gratitude. Yes, they practice gratitude because they know at least 3 big things to be grateful for every day.

When you are grateful and positive, everything around you is better.

They have a passion

Every one of us has a passion. What is the difference? The happy women know their passion and also are perfectly aware that passion is something that can change from time to time, just like their boundaries. If they notice that they are somehow lost and don’t know their purpose in life they seek for help. I really hope you will find your passion in life and become successful.

Not knowing what you want can be really hard and frustrating but there are many ways to find your passion and live a happy and fulfilled life.

Your life has a purpose and your story is very important. Your passion is the fire that will light your way!

They avoid/stop contact with negative people

This is a habit I recently started to implement in my life. It was hard at the beginning but after a while, when it becomes a habit is very easy. Simply press block and delete!

Why happy women stop contact with negative people?

Because they know their value and they respect others. If someone doesn’t respect you, why to bother with him? Why welcome negativity in their life and continue to communicate with someone who doesn’t respect you, doesn’t love you and doesn’t want you to succeed in life?

Don’t be afraid. There is a quote from Paulo Coelho that opened my eyes.

When someone leaves, it is because someone else is about to arrive. – P. Coelho

This is true! Just remember how many friends you had from kindergarten until now. How many have you forgotten? It is the same with negative people. Delete them from your life and never turn back unless they change – and everyone can change.

What if they are part of your family? Well, at least avoid them.

These 10 happy woman habits are something I wish you will implement in your life and start to make progress. But what about you? Are there any other important habits that happy women have?

Tell me what you think down in the comments. I wish you all the best in your journey to a more happy and fulfilled life

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If you are here and reading this post then I truly believe that you will experience change soon. Life can be very beautiful if you learn how to live it. But in order to make it beautiful, you must change it first. In this post, I share with you my story and opinion about the first step toward change in order to change your life.

I studied Psychology and I still remember one of my professor in the first class asked all of us (the new students) “Why did you choose Psychology?” and I said, “Because I am struggling myself with so many things and just want to discover my soul and mind.

Also, I would be so happy to help other people because I don’t want them to feel like I do.” This was the reason many colleagues chose to become a psychologists. I was a disaster and from this point of view, discovering my soul and change took me several years.

The first step toward change is the most important one. Design your dream life

I didn’t have a mentor and I did my life even worse in order to find myself and my purpose and to understand life. Before I continue, I have so much more to learn and I am aware that my way of life and my perspective is not the only one. What is good for me doesn’t necessary has to be good for other people. 


But I am sure that if I continued to blame myself and seek forgiveness and suffer for my “sins” – I wouldn’t change my life for the better. On the contrary, I would blame everyone around me and I would blame my life for my unsuccess.

The First Step Toward Change 

If you made it here then you must be interested and ready to change your life and I would love to be a part of it! I believe in you and your capacities for change in order to design your dream life. I truly believe that anyone can change if he finds a good mentor, but also someone who is a great role model.


What is the first step toward change?


The first step toward change is awareness and acceptance of the situation.

Awareness and acceptance of yourself. In therapy training, the first step to help your clients is to lead them to awareness.  And being aware of the situation and yourself is most important if you want to change your life. 
This is why, last year, I started this September Motivation – How To Live in The Here and Now. In order to be aware, you must practice mindfulness. 

This first step toward change is not a simple thing to do. Why? Why change is so complicated? Work on yourself is always harder, but I noticed how I always knew how other people should live but I never knew how to live myself. I never knew what is best for me and my life.

Did you find yourself in this situation? Do you also know how everyone should live their lives, but you have no clue how to live it yourself?

Acceptance 

To accept you first must be aware. 
I recently shared with you Acceptance Quotes and the first one is definitely the one which resonates best with me:


“The first step toward change is awareness. The second one is acceptance.” by Nathaniel Branden. 

I was afraid to become aware of myself because I was running away from pain. In order to escape, I didn’t want to become aware and live in the present moment. I know that I was not the only one, but I am very glad I did find a way to become aware and face myself. Myself, my life, my past and most importantly – THE PRESENT MOMENT.

”Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things, they are transformed.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.” – J.K Rowling

It is not possible to change something if you don’t know what to change! An alcoholic can’t change and stop drinking if he doesn’t accept that he is an ADDICT! A smoker can’t stop smoking cigarettes if he doesn’t accept that he is an addict! It is the same with every addiction and everything else in life.

We can’t change our lives if we don’t accept them the way they are in this present moment. This is so true for me! When I accepted that I am an addict, I stopped smoking cigarettes. When I accepted that I am not happy, I started seeking happiness!

Responsibility 


Do you really expect to sit home, lay down, go over and over how people are bad and everything is bad and expect your life to become better??? You expect your life to change without changing your mind and thoughts??? How could you do something if first, you are not aware that there is something that is not OK?

That there is something you can change in order to be happy and that YOU are the only one in charge.

I am sorry to disappoint you. I will be the bad person for telling you that “No, your life won’t become better”. You will be angrier every day and even more disappointed.


No one is responsible for my life and my decisions but ME! Don’t expect positive things to come to you if your heart and mind are negative! YOU are the only one in charge of your life, thoughts, mind, emotions, mistakes, happiness and success. 

”As my awareness increases, my control over my own being increases.” – William Schutz 

When you are aware of things and accept how they are – you will have the power to change them! When you take the responsibility in your hand you can change everything. If you still blame everyone around you – then accept that everyone around you owns you! You are not a marionette!

I wish you all the best on your journey toward change and I wish you happiness. So start paying attention and make a good analysis of everything in and around you.

And please don’t judge yourself! Judging won’t lead you anywhere. If I judged myself for my mistakes I wouldn’t rise and stand on my feet. Remember – we are doing the best we know at the moment. There is NO “if I go back in time”. There is NO “what IF”! Just be aware, accept and take responsibility.

  Stay Positive!

Check:

Why It’s So Hard To Love Yourself
10 Habits Of All Happy Women
How To Forgive Yourself And Live The Life You Deserve